adults not working

[keavney]

What's the best way to encourage adult children to work? My ss moved in with us 12 weeks ago, I assisted him into work but he left week 1 because he didn't like it. He's done work experience but no paid employment for 3 months. SS GF no longer allowed to sleep over. No money is given. We both want him to secure a bright future and be self-sufficient. All other adult children work. We save all 'keep' paid in ISAs for the young adults in the house, in order to assist them in saving deposit money. SS cant save if he doesn't work. His room is a tip (all the young adults in the house are untidy). He doesnt help out with house hold chores causing frustrations for those working.

All ideas welcomed.

Turn off the WiFi in the day. Or change the password.

lock him out during the day?

Sounds like he's onto a cushy number and he knows it. Working didn't suit him so he left. He doesn't get any money, but he doesn't need to because you provide everything for him. Look at it from his point of view. He gets to sit around all day and everyone else works their butts off while he does nothing, and yet everything is provided for him. You are all getting grumpy about it, but you are all enabling him.

You and DP need to be on the same page with this one, and it's time for tough love.

If he's not working, and wants to keep living with you, he has to contribute to the household in some way. He has to keep his room tidy. He has to help with the household chores. In the meantime

Don't cook his food.
Don't do his washing.
Don't be his taxi.
Don't pay for his cell phone etc etc.

If none of that works, either he needs to be assisted to find somewhere else to live or you resign yourself to living with someone who's effectively a parasite.