They was on and off for 4 years she cheated 3 times the last time was enough he left. We have been together for over 2 years now. ( we did everything she asked when she first found out about me, I met her, we told her when I would meet the kids (then they didn't come that day) she knows where I live. Knew when they was letting my kids etc.
He would never turn up has always text to make sure he's having them until she moved, he wrote a a letter for access ie his weekends birthdays a phone call during the week Christmas etc. She said everything was ok but sent it back unsigned.
Was At his mum's kicking off 2 weeks after the move saying he needs to do pick up and drop offs every week. But he couldn't afford it. He stopped doing over time Friday to pick them up at 4 to be able to get them home at a reasonable time for tea.
When she lives closer he used to pick them up at 6ish they had no tea, she said it's his time he should sort it.
Ex does not like to communicate we us. The only time I have text her was at last Christmas when I asked her not to said threats to my house (she said he could have the kids till 5pm Xmas eve but text at 12 saying she's on her way with family if she has to). My partner has never not given his children back. She moans he has no time for them but she wants to cut the time short.
When she got into a relationship things began to get better, but now she's moves in with him she's changed again.
Tbh I would love it for the kids if everything would just be ok not best mates but when it comes to the kids have the same understanding.
I don't communicate with my ex however we have our days etc sorted so no real need to.