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Advice on Step Parent adoption please

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Beasie82 · 16/11/2018 10:43

My partner wants to adopt my son from a previous relationship. I fell pregnant and my ex wanted nothing to do with the child and went back to his ex. After quite a lot of nasty messages and unwelcome visits from both the ex and his GF I decided to continue with the pregnancy on my own. I was already a mum to 3 and was happy to do it all on my own. I then met my partner when i was 4 months pregnant, he came to all my hospital appointments, was there at the birth and has been my little boys daddy ever since.

We have always talked about him adopting him but after a recent health scare we've made the decision to go ahead with it. We have a meeting with a Social Worker on Monday but we are slightly concerned that my ex will contest the application just out of spite (this is the type of person he is!!). He is not on the birth certificate and has never had any contact with my son neither has any of his family, doesnt pay maintenance etc.

Has anyone else been in the same situation my partner is concerned that he would be rejected by the Courts to adopt if the ex contests the application even though he's been daddy for the last 2 years and our boy knows no different. Just wanted a bit of advice off people who may have been in the same situation.

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hamabr86 · 16/11/2018 17:43

I would just do it. I never met my biological father and my stepfather wanted to adopt me but because they would have to ask his permission (and thus tell him i exist) they didn't bother.

This annoys me both on the account they couldn't tolerate a bit of hassle for me when I was too young to tell the difference and also because they didn't give my bio dad any option at that point.

Missingstreetlife · 19/11/2018 16:46

The social worker will talk to you about options. If he doesn't have pr his consent may be dispensed with, or you can have guardianship instead

Beasie82 · 19/11/2018 17:27

Weve been to see the sw today and he has put our minds at rest. I was completely honest about who the other person was and understood he had to give his consent and the sw worker said after necer havibg any contact he would have to provode a reasonable readon as to why he was cpnsenting the application and if they deemed it to be unreasonable they would not take it into account. Hopefully he won't contest it. Thanks for the advice!!

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