If you're not a custodial SM, are you still included in things like SC birthdays, plays, etc.? And is your DP still the same with your kids?
From time to time, me and DP have a big fight and then suddenly, it feels like I should have nothing to do with SD and he has nothing to say to my son (who lives with us full time). He just works in the basement, takes our baby when I need to drive my son to school (otherwise, he was driving my son while I was with the baby). So my son comes from school and barely sees him before going to sleep.
Tomorrow is SD's 12's birthday and he wants to go see her for a couple of hours (she has an evening class later in the evening) and on Sat, he and EW organized a party in an amusement center.
DH is not talking to me, so I don't know how to congratulate SD. Her mom ignored my last couple of texts (while telling DP that she would have answered if she got it, apparently in response to what SD told her, don't really know how she knew), so I don't want to do it through her and I don't want anyone to know about our fight either.
Would you still text the EW? (She texted my DP to congratulate him with our 1 y.o birthday). Or how would you explain to SD who is supposed to come here the weekend after why you she hasn't heard from you on her bday? Unfortunately, DP gets very immature at times....