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8 replies

TTvet26 · 02/11/2018 17:49

Hello,
I am having some major life issues and would like advice. My bf and I have been together since his son was 3 months old. When he was 7 months old we moved in together and I become the unofficial stepmom, our son is now 4 and a half and 2 weeks ago my fiancé left us.. both me and his son, just a week and a half before our wedding day. Now I’m having issues with the biological mom and grandmother, bc I am not a legally his mother they took my son and threatened to call the police if I kept him, I have done nothing but love support and take care of him for the past 4 years. I didn’t give birth but he is my son... is there anything I can do to get my son back? Over the past 4 years mom has only had custody 1 weekend a month and sometimes she would go 2-3 months without wanting to see him. But since dad walked out and she found out all of a sudden she wants him... idk what to do..

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HeckyPeck · 02/11/2018 21:18

I’m so sorry OP, that sounds like a horrible situation. Are they not letting you see him at all? He must be very distressed by it too.

I don’t know where you’d stand legally - the best thing to do would be to try and find a solicitor for some advice.

Snappedandfarted2018 · 02/11/2018 21:43

Sorry to say he’s not legally you’re child. Did I read right that his father abandoned him? I would speak to social services.

TwistedStitch · 02/11/2018 22:14

You need to speak to a solicitor. Any adult who has lived with a child for a period of time (I think 2 years?) has the right to apply for contact. You should seek legal advice to see what your options are. So sorry you are going through all this.

Santaisgettingbusy · 02/11/2018 22:18

Apply for residency as his guardian?

Madlife · 09/11/2018 07:55

I'm really sorry about what you are going through. Xxxx have you spoken with your bf? I would meet him and discuss with him what's going on. Some ppl freak out before a wedding. Also he knows you have being doing most for that child, so he has to recognize that and maybe agree with him to something. I would make him see how disruptive this is for you all. I'm so sorry for that poor boy... He must be missing you like mad..... Why didn't he take his son with him? Is there any explanation for his behavior? Do you speak to your child? Do you have access to see him? Take care and all the best

TeachesOfPeaches · 09/11/2018 08:30

What a horrible situation OP. Hopefully someone will be along with some good advice. Thanks

dontalltalkatonce · 09/11/2018 08:32

Not sure about the legal part but really sorry this happened to you.

Santaispolishinghissleigh · 09/11/2018 09:34

You can apply for short term residency until something more permanent is sorted out.
See a solicitor ASAP

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