pissed right off

[Madlife]

Good morning, sorry if I'm starting moaning already. Is just that I am so drained. why is it ok for FM to go on holidays without the children when the aren't in school. But if I want to go for 3 days with my partner and my children without Dsc as they have school and my children are babies I am an insensitive b*? I am just pissed off the double standards for judging one person and the other totally different. I am complaining about my partner mainly lol. Don't know is anyone else only having discussions about step children? Is ruining my relationship was I feel like I can give a shot no more. I couldn't celebrate my 30th going 3 days because dsc mother couldn't be bothered to take the child that lives with us to school cuz she is a lazy ass. But I have to have her 2 children for 10days so she can go on holiday with her family? Without her kids? WTF?

What's ruining your relationship is your partner's behaviour and words to you.

It seems he has no criticism of his Ex for pretty much ignoring one child, but does of you. Have you challenged him on this?

It seems you do an awful lot for his child with little gratitude or appreciation from him. You're getting taken for granted.

Sandy makes some excellent points about your partner there OP.

I answered at this early hours but I must forgotten to press post lol I know he is just too soft, and he feels guilty, etc etc. I told him this morning that I am really fed up of his lack of communication and not being straight with ex partner. This whole situation is affecting us a lot to the point of him sleeping on the sofa, or just being like flat mates. When we are alone everything goes back to normal but then again is always something when his son comes back. And it could be just due to me having lots of stress plus lack of sleep... Or a bit of everything. But I have sent him a message saying that he needs to work on this relationship too and he is not willing to let me know so I will move out with my kids. I don't understand why is so hard to say things straight with time not to wait for the last minute for me to find out...sometimes I think if we weren't together if he would do for us all the things he does for the ex. But probably not because I am calm and independent... I don't know this whole situation is just driving me nuts and I am exhausted.

I get you. Double. Standards!

My DP has never gone away with our child because he doesn’t want to upset his adult DSDs. So our child is now 6!

Their mother has gone away with her bf 3x a year since her kids were young, and taken them with her for one weekend a year. It’s the one time I wish my DP would take a bit of a leaf from his exes book!

Sorry - you have a resident SDC and you did not want them to go on holiday with you and thought it was OK dumped him with a feckless mother ( from your account)

All the adults in this triangle need to grow up and start parenting and step parenting this child in a kinder more mature way.

She did not ruin your 30th - your DP did, he should have sorted out child care on his time - not his EX.