Very new relationship , when to.introduce the kids

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Ok very very fresh relationship , but I have 3 DDS 12 11 and 6. They still blame me for the marriage breakdown and their father is manipulating them , asking them questions about me all the time . I really like this guy and of course have no intention of introducing any time soon, but I sense it to be a big problem when it happens , when would be the best time ?

Ages yet.

I don't think there's any hard rules. Do your dc have time away with their dad? If so, I would use that time for at least 6 months, and probably, more like a year, before you introduce them.

In a situatuon where there isn’t quite so much baggage as your scenario, 5/6 months

In your scenario, 8/9 months. I’d need to be damn sure he was a keeper

Ok thank you all for your input x

Hi there!

Its difficult when you get into a new relationship when you have children who reside with you isn't it? My children met my partner much sooner than I met his children just because of the logistics of the situation, (them being with me for 13 days out of 14 at that point - oh and my awesome ex who decided to bring them home unexpectedly 3 hours early one day!!!)

You don't say how long you've been split up from your ex or any of the details but if they are living with you yet blaming you for the split, that must be making home life hard? I would definitely concentrate on addressing that, and making it clear that at some point you (and the ex) will be moving on and there is potential for new relationships etc. Good luck xx

Firstly I would suggest you have a chat about what happens in your home /life is nothing to do with their df and he does motet to choose your friends. Leave it at that for now. Suggest to exh he is damaging the dc by quizzing them and you will seek legal advice should you suspect he is bad mouthing you to them - it is now an offence.
Keep your new bf to yourself until it is stable enough to add dc to the mix. Secret trysts are worth holding on to ime!!
Good luck op.