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Am I wrong to feel a bit miffed?

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T2705 · 20/09/2018 07:58

Morning,

Just need a little moan, dp came home last night from picking up dsd's for their Wednesday overnight contact and told me that he hadn't mentioned it to me until he'd spoken to the ex but that he was going to be having the girls for an extra night onhis weekends (Sunday night in addition to Fri and sat) am I wrong to feel miffed that he didn't even mention this to me before hand?

It's not like I would of said no to it because I wouldn't, he said he knows it would be ok with me which is why he didn't think to talk to me before discussing it with the girls and his ex. I may have added in one or two points for him to consider but I would never not support him with extra time with them. Probably an over reaction but I just feel annoyed that he can make an arrangement like that which does have an impact on me without even mentioning it first.

If I did the same in reverse I know he would be pissed off. Urgh, men!!

OP posts:
SandyY2K · 27/09/2018 22:44

@Nightwatch999

YABU, he does not need to ask permission to see his kids.

But if he wants the OP to look after his children..he needs to check it with her first.

If he's looking after them himself...then it's fine.

Velourpine · 29/09/2018 23:46

Is it your house, his or shared OP? From experience please be careful how you respond to this so not to push them away. My DF’s Wife prevented me from staying at his house spontaneously once when I was a kid and I’ve hated her ever since. If it was her house and he moved in then fair enough, I’d be the same. She didn’t even pay towards the bills thoughConfused As a step mother myself I’d never feel like that towards SDC but it’s whatever works in your household OPSmile

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