ExH and stepmum splitting - how to help my dc

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My exH and his partner are splitting. Am gutted. His partner made a massive effort and has been great in many ways and deserves a medal. So sad for the new round of upheaval, particularly for my dc (teens). Their house will have to be sold, who knows where he will live, implications for school and contact etc. ExH will be upset and that will upset them. Yet another home to acclimatise to. I have no idea about how my dc will affected and if anyone has supported their dc through this please tell me how it went....

My ex and his wife split a few years ago and as she had been so brilliant to my DD we were both very sad about that. We've both stayed in touch with her and I feel like it has added to DD's life to keep that contact. I had always spoken very highly of her to DD and made it clear I liked and respected her which I think helped (no,I didn't always agree with her, but I was not going to be the same as the ex-W that was inflicted on me when I hooked up with someone with kids). You can be there to listen and support and facilitate contact if your DCs want that - if she has been in their lives for a while then it gives them an element of stability and continuity.

Thanks, Pink it’s early days but having 24hrs to get my head around it has helped a little. We will see how it all pans out. Difficult watching this unfold and having no control over it. Life is never straightforward is it!