50/50

[Jaxtellerswife]

Hi all. Just a curious question really. For those families that have a 50/50 living arrangement; when do you think or when have you found the50/50 ends?
Does it end at all?
Does the child choose a preference?

Personally I can see it never ending .... why would the child change the arrangement when they see each parent equally (especially if you have a good co parent relationship with your ex) i can see my DS coming home from college / uni when it's "my" weekend as the structure is in place which he likes. No one feels left out.

I would worry if there has been restrictions on visits to either parent.

I’ve wondered this in the past. My dp’s dc is here 50/50 and as much as she’ll always be welcome here, in a few years time she will be in her late teens and things change so much and she might not want to be here as much.

I think it just changes as the child’s life changes.

We have 50/50 and live 5 mins walk from the other house. The coparent house is child free apart from ss and ours has ss, two toddlers and a baby on the way lol.
I suppose as ss gets older (he's 10 years older than our first together) he may find the little ones annoying or want privacy or something, I don't really know.

My ds1 is 17 and has a girlfriend and part-time job who see him more than I do at the weekends.

@rainingcatsanddog well that occurred to me as well, I'm hoping that when he starts having a girlfriend he will still want to be with us but I suspect all the small children running around won't be the vibe he's going for my partner thinks the 50/50 will phase out and he will just naturally come and go as he pleases.

We have 50/50 and live 5 mins walk from the other house.

We’re the same. Only 5 minutes away.
Dp’s dc is here for a full week then a full week at mum’s.
She has a lot more siblings here than at her mum’s so it’s a lot more loud and lively here. Like I said, always has a place here but can totally understand when she’s 16 and just wants some peace and quiet and doesn’t want to be here as much.

We have 50:50 but it's a mess. Three days mid week plus every other weekend, not ideal for kids. We wanted to switch to every other weekend but ex refused as not convinent for her.
Honestly I think when in late teens the kids get to choose more and they set pace - you might see them more not less depending

Week not weekend - stupid autocorrect
. My sister's step kids now live with her full time , so it can change the other way eg more.

My kids don't have 50/50 but see their dad one midweek night, one weekend night & eo full weekend. My two at home are 16 & 12 & their half siblings at their dads are 3 & 2. 16 yr old defo choses to come to mine during the day time at weekends when he's with his mate or his gf as his dads house too noisy. Tbh I don't really approve of this as I do feel he's picking & choosing what bits of his dads family life to engage with, but he's 16 so can't force him one way or the other.

My youngest DSDs were 50/50, although this was informal and their mother always said her home was their main one, and we paid maintenance.

Once they were older teens they chose to go full time at their mothers. She is away for a week at a time and they liked the freedom. DP misses them a lot, however they gave the kids the ability to choose from a young age. They live 10 minutes away but they don’t pop round.

We had a child so our house is more family oriented, where they need to remember to close stair gates etc and I do think that they like being treated as adults at their Mums.