How did you and OH tell SC you were pregnant

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I am 6 weeks pregnant, and we have lots of time yet until the 12 week scan but I'm trying to think up ways for me and OH to tell DSS6 that we are having a baby. How did everyone and their OH's tell their SC about their new sibling?? Did you just sit them down and tell them? I was thinking about getting him a t shirt saying 'big brother' that we can wrap up for him as a present. Is that OTT??

Waited until 12 weeks showed them the picture and just told them. Stressed how this was their blood relative and sibling, so would always be there no matter what. They were fine with it, bit stressed about change closer to his birth but generally okay. Now he's here they are very excited by their brother. He smiles at them and they got his first laugh, so they are well chuffed. We also did some summer stuff pre birth like tye dying t shirts for kids and then them making tye dye baby grows for baby which he wore jsut after he was born.

Oh, we just did this yesterday. Maybe slightly different since my girlfriend has them 12 days out of 14 - they only go to their dad every other weekend.

We were very lucky that it was easy. SD4 has spent the last three months insisting that mummy should have a baby in her tummy. And SD8 got a toy magic wand last month, said "abracadabra... little sister!" then jabbed her mum in the belly with it! Therefore we referred to these things, and that she and I had discussed it and now there was a little baby growing in her tummy.

So they were delighted. SD4 wants a bit of this 'big sister' thing her sister has and is obsessed with babies anyway. SD8 has thoughtfully provided us with a boy's name and girl's name already (we might actually go for the girl's name she suggested if it's a girl.)

It depends on how you think they are going to react. I knew my step son 13 at the time was going to take it badly so I asked dp to tell him on his own.
I didn't think my hormones could take it if he said anything nasty. Luckily it went ok and now he's an amazing big brother who loves his siblings.

Thanks everyone, and how did you tell your exes? Did you tell them first or let your LO tell them themselves? Our communication with DP's ex is pretty bad and we have a key worker involved who helps us all communicate. She's lovely but it would be weird to tell her before my DSS if that makes sense?

Congratulations on your pregnancy. We told my DSS's first. We took them for a walk in the snow all bundled up to the top of a fort. Had a lovely picnic of warming food before showing them a scan photo- they were very excited and still talk about how we told them. My OH then phoned their mum that eve and told her. She has a history of ruining surprises for the kids if she knows things first. We have involved them with planning for the baby and have helped them to redecorate their room so they have their own special space, also we have brought them some presents from the baby. They are 10 and 11 and are very excited, we have talked about how a new baby means more love in a family and not limiting the love that already exists. 11 days until D Day and they couldn't be happier- the bump gets more kisses and cuddles than me or their Dad some days! Good luck.

We just told DSD when she was with us for the weekend and gave her a bit of space to think about it and ask questions.
DH told her mum later that day. It was important for DSD to feel that she was one of the first to know in the family so we played down the fact that mil and fil had known for a few weeks

@DevonRosie that's so lovely ❤️ that's exactly what I want - something he will remember.