Anyone else's house turn into kaos when sdc arrive?

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Dss came this morning. Dh been called out into work early hours which he does from time to time. Not a problem, I have dss as it's only for a couple of hours. My dc are here also.

Dss is 5. All I seem to have done is told him no in the 2 hours he's been here.

He's tried to reach ds Lego which he's in the middle of building - it's a massive set which is taking him ages. I purposely put it out of the way. I said no obviously but I've just been ignored and he's still tried to get it.

He's then threw all ds superhero figures down the stairs.

He's asked to play with slime. I've said only on the kitchen table. He's taken it in the living room.

He wants sweets. I've said no.

He's got all DD's dolls out and then pushed her away when she's tried to join in.

I'm going out when dh gets home lol. On top of all this, he just turns the house upside down. He will be back any minute.

I'm not saying I don't love him or anything. He's just so full on. Anyone else have this with younger ones? My dcs are older and they do get on well but if they don't, it's dss who starts any argument

Has dss got any toys at your house? I understand that the LEGO model is a one child job but did he get the figures and dolls out to show boredom/anger/jealousy perhaps?

He has more toys here than my 2 dcs put together lol. He also has his own lego. My ds is autistic so his Lego builds are very important to him. Dss would just take it all to bits if he got his hands on it. Not try help put it together

I understand why building the model is obviously a one person job.

Is your h normally out the house when ss comes round? He sounds like he wants adult Dad's attention.

I have a five year old she has loads of toys yet she will play with her db who’s 2 toys and vice versa, very typical behaviour for a child that age op. My dd is the same when I tell her not to do something she shouldn’t do.

No, it's only one in every 4 weekends his dad is on call and that's only ever until 11am so when he gets dropped off at 10, he knows his dad will be out for an hour max. He's no different when his dad is at home tbh. I just find it hard sometimes as he literally does turn the whole house into kaos when he's here. I love him to bits, i really do but he is very testing at times and today has been one of those days.

And yeah I know it's all age related too. He just always tells his mum when he goes home that he's been told off when he's here. But his behaviour isn't good and it's the same for everyone. We can't favour any of the dcs, they just all get treated the same. His mum never tells him off - he's a pfb and an only child in her case so it's obviously hard in dss to come be in 2 totally different atmospheres. But today he hit my dd very hard for no reason. He's gone home and told his mum he was told off and she's angry at dh for the discipline

Maybe he’s jealsous and fighting for attention especially if you’re dc live with his df and he sees him on set days. A lot is age related and five years can be particularly testing just the other day my dd hit a toy at her older brother and she was reprimanded then that was that. It all depends on if the punish is relevant to age of the child. My dd wouldn’t remember or fixate on being told off in the morning come the afternoon.