Hi everyone,
I’ll do a bit of info first before I get to the nitty gritty! I have been with my current partner for around 2 1/2years, we both have children from previous relationships. I have a 10yr old who lives with me and my partner, and he has a 6yr and 2yr old sons (his partner was pregnant when we got together) who live with their mom/his ex partner. I/we have my son full time after some turbulence he experienced with his dad, his own choice completely which his dad has learned to accept.
We have my partners children every other weekend for two nights, and a night in the week for tea when we have them that same weekend and two nights on the weeks that they aren’t with us on the weekend as a rule. Although that is very very flexible on their moms part (we’ve recently had his boys for 5 nights, then again for 2 nights with a days ‘break’ in the middle but that’s another story!)
Now here we go...
Generally I’ll cook one meal for us all, including the boys when they are here. I cannot bare cooking twice unnecessarily and I like it when we all eat together as a family. My 10yr old and his 2yr old are brilliant eaters, don’t get me wrong they do have their fill of rubbish (what child doesn’t?!) when allowed but I don’t mind as they always eat their fruit and veg and eat relatively healthy.
6yr old on the other hand is the opposite I was always told that he’s a picker and will graze throughout the day rather than eat big meals, which is fine obviously each to their own and that. But it wasn’t until I became established with the children that I noticed his eating habits are terrible!! He defo favours ‘kiddy food’ over proper cooking and would live on chicken nuggets etc if he was allowed im sure. He will have/ask for peas with one of his fave meals, sausage & mash/chips, but will have a spoonful or two then be done. And unfortunately peas are the only veg he seems to tolerate. Sweet corn, carrots etc don’t even get a look in, not even baked beans do! I can’t even sneak veg in to pasta sauces etc as he won’t eat ‘proper’ food
He does have fruit, but again it is very limited, strawberries orange and apple are his limit. And obviously he can’t really get by on those
I have thought about giving him a multivitamin to make sure he’s getting what he needs but as it wouldn’t be continued at home he wouldn’t get the full benefit
He will quite happily graze on rubbish throughout the day, which I limit when he’s here, which does show in his eating. But he still can’t finish a meal, there’s always something that he can’t eat because he’s apparently too full. His 2year old brother will out eat him in speed and quantity!!
I don’t have anything to do with their mom, but that’s another story yet again! And as dad works weekends too its usually down to me to feed the children. Where do I go from here?! I’m not and can’t force him to eat properly, especially if it’s not going to be continued at home. We really do try our best with him but it all goes to pot when he returns home. The poor mites teeth are now brown from years of eating all the wrong things it really isn’t far on him and we’re lost for ideas atm!!
Sorry for the long post!
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SwingsAndRoundaboutz · 09/08/2018 13:14
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