Asking some questions on behalf of my OH as he likes MN opinion.
He has an 18 month old daughter, whose mother he was in a 3 month relationship with.
They are very different people. Very different backgrounds. This is why the relationship failed.
His daughter is in his care 3 full days a week. Overnight once a week, and are building up as per the court order.
His daughters mother stipulated her nightime bed routine includes having a bottle of milk with a Rusk in it. My OH is horrified by this. He has not given it to her at bedtime, and she is absolutely fine without. However he wants to address it with mum. He can not though as she is verbally aggressive and abusive (as well as physical). I've suggested contacting the HV. There are other concerns such as lots of plaque build up on teeth, persistent nappy rash, overweight, poor diet, just low level neglect stuff. She is always clean and appropriately dressed, and her mum clearly loves her. She has a clean home etc.
There are other issues in the home, screaming and swearing from mum and her partner. Just turned 4 year old left playing in the garden unattended.
Child has had a social worker, who closed the case recently.
He doesn't want to report all this stuff to social services. Would you get in touch with the HV? Or do nothing as it's all parenting choices? He is unable to discuss it with her.