Hi I don’t know if the way I’m feeling is wrong.
I’ve been with my partner for six years and the first three years were great.
I have previously four kids and my kids were older in late teens to early teens His were 6 n 9 years old.
They were fine but then I fell pregnant after three years. The cracks started. The ex caused us so many problems throughout but I didn’t let that bother me.
I’m to my child being just a few months old we had social at my door. Then police.
We knew it was the ex n his daughter saying things. She became so nasty n naughty. She does not like to authority from no one. She got chucked out five schools to in the end she didn’t go school for nine months. Lazed in bed all day.
It was getting tonpint I couldn’t tolerate the behaviour. So I said to my partner our baby comes first. Year went by and the allegations n police didn’t stop. He continued to see them. We went on holiday and she did the daughter n ex everything to destroy it. She was aggressive to his mum her nan. Wanted to fight so many. Also was in a social media haul of online explicit. His two kids became kids on a care plan. Now saying all this I am a child protection officer. I dis missed my professional views and felt they were having a hard time and the ex was brain washing them. Etc etc.
Then it got to the point we was asked to have the girl. Well if she was a risk to her mum n brother why wasn’t she a risk to me my partner n my baby. By this time over two half years 29 social visits n allegations n 6 police raids n arrest.
As she lived with us. I started to get agitated and pissed off and deep down didn’t want her there but despite my feeling I got her in a school where we found out she had asd adhd and problems. But she was still nasty towards my little one n nasty about me. But I got her in a routine. Checked on social media. Gave her rules boundaries and routine. She was in a better place. Still had social coming. But then few allegations started to that they checked my daughter over n contacted her nursery etc. I was being questioned as a mum. I felt anger. And I expressed to my partner I had enough. I have to protect my child now my unborn. That we couldn’t even mention.
She is so rude n nasty to her dad that I don’t want my kids learning to speak to her dad like that let alone behave like that. She would fight her dad n mum to point police came n the mum would chuck her. Anyway was decided she goes to her mums as she was secretly filming me n my partner and slagging me off. Etc.
I just didn’t feel safe her being around my kid. Then the boy and her never got along she disipes him. So why would it be didn’t for my little girl.
Anyway she went home nd boy the trouble started with ex n her. Causing problems. I had my new baby and it was like she was jealous of them and all I got was she has problems. Her disability was not excuse. Till in the end I told my partner he had to go to his mums to have them it was in bearable. Then last straw was she had to come on holiday with us why I will never know. But she then left my child in the deep in the pool alone and pushed her many occasions and had fights with her dad. Was so disgusting rude to people. She’s now 14 and thinks she 18. The way she speaks acts n dress is disgustingly wrong. Hate the way my partner talks to her and in all fairness he does nothing with his kids wen they come down. And then leave me with them. Now I’ve put my foot down n said sorry I will not have them one they don’t listen. It’s my house my rules. Not any different rules my kids have rules n boundaries and routine. They come my child behaves so bad even the nursery have said they nothice a difference. Also he don’t spend a min with them coz they are hard work. I can’t stand them now. I have no feeling or desire to be in ther lives or my kids. They spoil everything. They broke things on purpose and no respect for anyone or anything.
They are dirty. Never wash. Boy is 11 years n he still pisses on the seat. Don’t brush there teeth. Wash once a week that they feet an nails are black. Always want money don’t call him unless it a drama or money. Every night he gets a call with drama with them both. Our kids in bed. N it’s our time yet he on phone constantly arguing with these kids. If they find out we didn something they cause hiss fits over it. They emotionally blackmail him making him feel so guilty. I actually hate them now. They destroyed my life. I’m ruining my career they I worked hard for and my view in kids. I love my own and even my previous children I let them know conquences about action n all. And I admit where I went wrong etc. He just blames the illness n ex wen it’s both of them. They don’t want to be parents to the kids. They never want them coz he does nothing but moan about them etc. But it’s like he has to do it and lie. So I hear this and it gets my back up. Now six week holidays are here I’m dreading it as they here for a whole week but yet he has to work so I’ve told him he has to take them. She ain’t to be left in my house. I can’t teust her around my kids or alone. After all. N she’s to sneaky as we have done it before and she’s went through tall our stuff n took pics. As we have camera now it got so bad. I’ve made my self busy fe whole week now so he knows I have no time for them. Can’t stand way he leaves them. Like I have enough to do with two dogs and three year old n year old girls. Plus I work. He works hard but it ain’t downs to me to do nothing with them. I just don’t care anymore. Sound horrible I don’t even want them at my kids christening coz all they do is spoil things and make themselves centre attention. They can’t stand there dad having alone time with me. And we have our anniversary coming up and going Rome and they giving him such a hard time
What do I do. I hate these kids even the eating habits they don’t eat anything good. Pot noddles n take away a where I cook fresh for my kids. My kids diet is on point fruits good food. Ok we all give sweets choc n that but they eat all day fizzy drinks all time My three old starting to copy saying I don’t like it ewww coz of them. They don’t eat one dinner. Always pot noodle n takeaway. My partner spends a fortune n it’s wrong. For a quiet life but yet my two don’t eat it why should they.
I just hate them n can’t help it.