New DS and overwhelmed

[Spanglyprincess1]

This is actually a positive message for once but I do need some advice.
My ds was born 11 days ago and he's wounderful. His half siblings (my step kids) are excited by him and interested. The eldest was a bit hesitant and upset when he came home but they have now bonded and I'm really happy with how everything is going. We have step kids 50% so two nights a week and Evey other weekend from Friday after school to Monday school drop.
The only thing I'm struggling with is that I had surgery post delivery and am breast feeding. The children constantly talk to me and touch me or ds when I'm trying to feed him. It makes me very nervy esp as they were there day I got out of hospital so I had no rest. I don't want to snap at them as it's woundeful that they are interested but I find I overwhelming. Has anyone else had this? Is there anything I can do to feel more comfortable ? I tried going to room to feed but I get followed.

I think your DP needs to distract them, then when the baby is fed, perhaps dp & the dsc can help with nappy changing; spend time with the baby with their dad, so you get some rest.

Congratulations on your new baby

They sound lovely and congratulations on your baby.
Get their dad to involve them with something. Take them out, help them cool. Sort something out for their brother. He needs to explain that he needs to eat and sleep a lot but will get more playful as he gets older.
When you need a bath or a rest they can be with their brother maybe singing songs or reading books to him.

Sorry i put help them cool i meant get them to help to cook.

Talk to your DP and explain the problem. Do you have any relatives or close friends' who can visit at the weekend and help distract your step-children? If so worth getting them over to do so.

They are lovely kids and a real credit to their mum and dad.
The reading thing is good idea. Dp does their dinner and homework or takes them to swimming lessons etc so he's not always free to supervise/distract but I will talk to him about trying to time these around feeds if possible ( baby isn't that predictable yet!).

Congratulations, I've no real advice other than get your dh to distract them. But just wanted to say, I could feel really touched out when ds2 came along and I was BF. It passes I just think your body doesn't quite feel your own in the early weeks and needs a bit of reclaiming!

Thanks lunar1 that's probably how I feel at the moment. I really space out when bf and don't like dp to touch me either when I am. Hopefully I will get more used to it and settle down