DSS and moving schools

[Snowdonia]

Would you say both parents should have an equal say in where their son goes to school?

DSS9 mother plans to move to a different area. She has told DSS he will be moving school but hasn't spoke to DH about it as of yet. She mentioned it around 6 months ago but said she will move when he goes to secondary school. At the time DH said he wants to be involved with looking at new schools etc. Now she wants to move as soon as possible, which she has every right to of course, but how does it work? Can she just decide what school he will change to, or do you think DH's opinion matters just as much. If DSS is to change school DH would like to consider the one where we live as well. He has friends who live by us and all go to the school, so atleast he would have friends straight away making it less daunting for him. If he were to go to the school where his mother wants to live he wouldn't know anyone and is adament he doesn't want to live/go to school there.

Would you let DSS decide/have a say as it's him who will be most effected, or is that too big a decision for him?

Obviously DH will talk to his ex partner about it, but he's just wondering if she could get away with trying to do it all without his input.

Does anyone have any experience of this?

Does it affect dh in any way? Does he do school runs etc?

I’m presuming your OH has PR? If that’s the case he has equal say in choice of school - the mother can’t unilaterally decide.

She’s told the son he’s moving school, but hasn’t discussed it with dad. Sounds quite controlling on her part.

This is worth a read:

www.slatergordon.co.uk/media-centre/blog/2016/09/what-to-do-when-parents-disagree-which-school-to-send-their-children-to/

Yes they have DSS 50/50 and he does school runs every week.

NorthernSpirit- Thanks for that link. Really helpful! and a relief that she can't do it behind DH back.

Even more out of order that you have shared custody and do school runs. When was she thinking about mentioning it?

No idea. DH hasn't mentioned it yet. Ex has recently told DSS that he tells his father to much, so he's worried he will have a telling off if DH asks about it. We've told him he can tell DH whatever he wants and to not worry about it.