Honesty where to start.. I'm probably going to ramble on as I've just lost it after a good few years! I love my step daughter so much and got so close to her. Took her everywhere as I have two gorgeous sons but treated her like my own daughter. She always said she loved me and was so close to me that it caused her own mum to become jealous and psychopathic! (a heavy drinker and someone who cheated on my other half then regretted it after she had left him for the other guy and it ended) she has always been a bad mum kicking her eldest son out at 16 and letting him live in the park! My other half didn't know this as she blocked contact with him and the children at the time. Her eldest son has since forgiven her but knows she's a bad mum. She's now all of a sudden an amazing mum to her youngest daughter who is 15. Think it's for fear of her moving in with us as it was getting like that. Anyway, she's poisoned the 15 year old mind and now the 15 year old has changed towards us, cut me off basically and I'm broken hearted. More so than my other half! Think it's because he's been so badly hurt by his children and ex wife in the past that he has truly given up. He adores his son and grandchild but has given up with his daughter saying his ex wife has convinced her now that we are horrible and her, the mum and eldest daughter (not my other half's) will stick together and he's lost her anyway. He's told me to now leave it but I've been in tears. I tried asking her what we had done to deserve this and told her we were here for her and loved her. Then I got a nasty message from the ex wife saying leave her alone or she will report me and it's not my other half trying it's me and I'm weird messaging her? It's made me feel so hurt. My other half has tried with his daughter but I believe the bond has gone as she left with her mum at 3 years old and didn't seem him for years as the mum wouldn't let it. He then got her back when she was 11 and I've treated her like my daughter ever since. I've tried and tried and she comes back and then lies, is so rude to us, puts the phone down, puts stuff on Facebook (hate it!) about how perfect her mum is and never puts a picture of her dad up or anything we've done together. She just turns nasty and hurts us so much. Then she contacts us again out of the blue but has stopped saying I love you or putting kisses. It's as though she does want to know us but her mum and big sister have said so much and turned her against us that she's fighting with it in her head. Although she will give the phone to her mum to say I'm annoying her as I've messaged her and then I get a nasty message from the mum? I have no idea if she wants to know us or not. I've tried so hard and am honestly hurting. Her mum is horrible. I know I can't be her mum or replace her but I wanted to be a loving step mum and am not allowed to be. I'm pushed out. Other half always sticks by me but I do feel bad too. I don't know what to do. I told the mum I will block her from everything now of she doesn't want to know us and let her be and to tell her I love her but won't chase anymore. I then blocked her before her mum could reply back as I was too hurt and her mum would say the most vicious things to me. She laughs that I can't fall pregnant as he's had a vasectomy etc. They take the pee all the time over it. She's always saying I will be the only one always that's mother to his children. It got me so upset that I wanted to try for a baby with him and for him to have a reversal just to prove a point! I have two beautiful children but honestly this has all hurt me. I'm always getting pushed away. She never ever gets her dad a fathers day card. She's rude to us both. When she's round she is fine and used to be all over us and now she doesn't even want to come round. I know it's the mum but I also know his daughter will regret not having us in her life. Do I just leave it now and concentrate on the life we have together with the other children? I guess we have to but I feel my other half has been stopped in being a dad because his ex wife has poisoned her mind and there is nothing we can do as she now listens to her mum more than ever as her mum has suddenly become amazing and we seem to be nothing to her now. Sorry to rant but I'm so upset. Do I just move on from it and we forget her?