Bedrooms?!

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Hi there,

New here and relatively new to the step parenting thing, my partner and I have 4 children between us - my 2 and his 2, mine live with me and he has his eow and 1 night during the week. we're talking about moving in together and i just wonder how other people work out the sleeping arrangemenrs?

Ideally we will be looking to move to a 4 Bed house, how do you sort out the Bedrooms?! There will be one big one medium and one small room, should his kids have the biggest room as they are sharing even though they're only there eow? Don't want to start arguments, genuinely just looking for other peoples experiences and opinions.

TIA

@CurlyRover we pick our battles - his ex can be a tad melodramatic and to have to put our foot down over every little thing is just draining. DS and DSD2 sharing although in my opinion would be ideal, DP isn't so sure and obviously its only a short term solution so not really worth the tears and tantrums that would undoubtedly follow! When it is something we need/expect or whatever we do it and deal with the fallout, when its not, its just not worth it!

The house we are currently considering the room probably is not really big enough to divide but is worth considering if DSDs end up sharing.

@bitzy12 - not being a bitch at all, I agree, I do think DSDs could have bunkbeds in the smallest room given that they are only there 4 days out of 14 but DP totally disagrees and believes this is unreasonable. Im not sure I would feel the same if it was the other way around but who knows?!

I do think if I were DSDs I would think having to share the smallest room is unfair and the last thing I want is for DSD's to feel like they're being shoved in any old place. I do worry about sacrificing my kids needs and don't want to do that at all either - its so difficult!!

As it stands, DD is happy about the possibility of having the biggest room albeit sharing it and it takes away the other argument of who would have the bigger room between DD and DS!! I will also give her the option of using our bedroom if she really needs some space on her own during the daytimes. Which again, will make her feel important.

I am also working on the assumption that DSD1 (13 this year) is only going to be wanting to stay for whole weekends for another year or two before she wants to stay in her home town (45 minutes drive) with her friends in which case whenever she isn't there DD or DSD2 will have the little room.

I totally understand the post weekend rant - totally natural!