not sure whether this should go under parenting or step-patenthood, so hopefully some non-step parents out there will be able to offer some advice.
i have just returned from a 10 day holiday to italy with my dp and his two sons who are 4 and (nearly) 7. the kids normally spend almost every weekend with us and 1 night a week for the past two and a half years and i was really looking forward to our first "family" holiday abroad. we have been away together before but only to my parents in wales, so the problems we faced was nothing to do with never having spent an extended amount of time with the two boys on holiday.
We spent most of our time trying to break up their fights, their bickering, their unruly behaviour - the eldest bullied his brother and developed this attitude problem towards us where he answered back in a totally cocky and arrogant way. the youngest spent an unbeleiveable amount of time whining and sayign "i want, i want, i want....."
everything we tried failed, from allocating a "naughty" area, to a calm and firm talk about how unacceptable dss1 attitude problem was, all the way to threats and shouting. by the end of the holiday i had had enough and was the first time since i went to gran canaria on holiday that i was dying to come home!! the worst thing is is this will be my only holiday this year unless i go away with out dp, which i may have to to make up for this disasterous one!
is their behavious normal? is it normal for 2 boys to constantly be in competition with each other, to be endlessly jealous of what the other one has, to be constantly physically violent towards one another - what works for you to put an end to this? i mean there's always been a degree of this but on this holiday it was increased tenfold to unbareable levels. so much so that i doubt i want to repeat the experience and spend precious holiday time in their company.
sounds really mean but i was pushed to the limit and i've been the queen of patience these last 2 nd a half years.
sorry so long. hope someone has encouraging words of advice!!
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just had holiday from hell with rude and whingey step sons - need parenting tips
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valleygirl · 09/08/2004 16:55
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