My partner has three children and I'm currently 31weeks pregnant. I get on with the children, there are ups and down but we generally all get on well.
The relationship with the ex wife is appalling despite them having been divorced for five years (three and a bit years before i we entered our relationship).
So to cut a long story short the communication has broken down. We have them Tuesday to Thursday every week and usually two weekends a month.
My partner tried to arrange the next four month calander (he works away some weekends) and sent this to her. She didn't respond for five weeks and during this time I have had to schedule various baby apointment including a 37week scan and antenatal classes. I agreed the dates with my partner before booking.
Yesterday she sent a calander and now the only weekend she's allowing him to have the children in the next three months is the weekend of my antenatal classes!. He is upset and saying it means he can't see his children at weekends for several months.
Am I being unreasonable by flatly insisting he attend antenatal and my late scan with me? We pre booked it and it's the only weekend anything is booked on, it's her not me that refusing acess any other weekends. I'm upset as the baby is important and my pregnancy is important to me esp as my first baby and I'm worried/have to have extra scans for medical reasons. I don't think she's being fair not allowing him more weekends because that's what she has decided - no reason has been given. I've offered to help pay for court costs if it ends up there as I think a more formal arrangement is needed, it's currently an 'agreement' not court ordered but if he refuses anything she denies access. He is terrified of instigating court proceedings in case she stops him seeing them at all.
It's causing rows as usually I'm very flexible but I can't be on this occasion and feel I need support.