I'm just after a little advice here really.
dp is having problemss with his eldest daughter aged 5.
He has two dd's the youngest is nearly 4.
We've been together for nearly 2 years and he has taken my two children as his own and I'm 40 weeks pg with our own baby.
It has recently come to light that his eldest dd is well a bit lightfingered and today she broke my ds glasses in two and lied about it.
She has stolen seets from the supermarket and blamed her sister. (I was at her mums house when this was found out) and again when she hid £30 out of her mums money under her bed and again blamed her sister.
Todays incident has shook me up as she broke my ds's glasses, he was very upset about it. My dd backed him up and her little sister also dropped her in it to. She wouldn't admit it but dropped herself in it eventually.
Dp really goes mad at her but calms down enough to gently question all four of them seperately to find out what happened.He then rang his ex to tell her what happened and said to her 'what do I do, I really don't know how to handle this' So she comes to mine with her mum and takes both girls away as his eldest dd is quite upset. I stayed in the background as I thought it was an issue for dp and his ex to sort out although I did say to his dd that lying about what had happened was just as bad as the crime itself.
Tbh I didn't really want the girls to go home as they need thier time with thier dad and I think its the only stability they get at the moment.
Now I know children don't do these things unless thier is something troubling them and I think this maybe the case with dp dd. She has been through so much in her short life, from her mum and dad breaking up nastily when she was 17 months and repeatedly slagging each other off until I met him, she then has a new 'dad'on the scene and is encouraged to call him so, She has moved house 4 times, the last time to her grannys where she is now, where it is open drop in, up till about 3 months ago there 8 adults and 5 children living there, she had to share her single bed with 2 other children {her couisins)her mum dumps her boyfriend at christmas and straightaway moved another boyfriend in and gets to call him daddy much to dp disgust. Her new bf is a weirdo to be polite, well her mum is pg now too as is her sis in law (my kids couisin lol this is complicated, we are all related!)and has split up with him now although is back.
and too
Dp sees his dd's loads, once a week overnight and quite often 2 or 3 times a week, as we are all quite friendly and go to each others houses for coffee and so all the kids can play together.
I really think she is confused over who who is in her life and a little insecure over the new babies but I don't know what to do for the best, her mum is quite sensitive over suggestions that she's mixed up. She is also not doing very well in school (well she has a lot of time Off)
Her mum and I get on quite well but am also worried this will ruin the good relationship that we have, I aslo feel that maybe we could have handled the glasses situation better but I've never had to deal with this sort of thing before not even from my own kids.
I know this is rambly but can anyone give me any advice