Can a blended family every work???

[greenhills2015]

This is kind of just a rant but I am feeling so so crappy!

I am mum to DS 5m and have 2 step children 5 & 8 - I get on great with the SC but since I've had my little one my feelings towards them are changing and I hate it.

I moved from my home country to where we are presently so have 0 family support (aside from FaceTime etc). This is because my partner couldn't leave his DC and rightly so.

A very close family friend is now expecting their first baby and I am so jealous! They get to be a little family, just them against the world and I will never have that! We will always have DP and his ex as a team parenting my SC and then me and DP parenting our children while having to make sacrifices due to SC.

I have to plan our lives, holidays and activities around the SC and will never just be able to prioritise my DS or what I want.

I just feel so crap that I feel like this, I think becoming a parent changes you because I never had these feelings before.

I don't want a load of messages saying 'feel sorry for your SC' or ' you knew this when you dated a guy who had kids' you can not possibly know how you will feel once you add your own DC into the mix until you have done so. SC are never pushed out, it is usually me and my DC that are left to our own Devises on the weekends they are here.

Being a step parent is an incredibly hard and thankless job and just need some support ☹️

Thanks

This won’t help at all but just be glad you can have a baby. My husband has had the snip so no baby for us You can be a family, it’s just a different type of family. Enjoy your lovely baby.

Blended families can work! It's different, but has it's upsides.
There is a 10 yearish age difference between DD and her siblings. If you think of them as being brothers and sisters, it's easier than us/them. DD gets to be 'small family' with us when older kids with Mum and big family (which again, has up's & down's) with them. Older kids were great with her, we had free babysitting until they went to Uni
I've been with my DH since DSC's were 7&9, they're in their mid 20's now. There have been tricky moments, but my memories of our family growing together are all the good ones. Much helped by their Mum being a reasonable and decent person too and everyone getting on. She and her family were very accepting of DD too.