My Boyfriend's Daughtet

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Roseyapple · 01/04/2018 01:38

Hi, I'm new here and i would really appreciate some advice. I have an older boyfriend whose daughter has never got over the split of her parents. She's very demanding to the point where it is ruining our relationship. I've tried to be sympathetic but I really think my boyfriend should stand up to her more. Has anyone else had the same situation and moved past it, or should i just accept it's not meant to be?
Thanks

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J0208 · 01/04/2018 01:42

How old is she? What do you mean by demanding?

swingofthings · 01/04/2018 07:19

How long have been together? Are you living together? How long was he separated before he started dating you?

FinallyHere · 01/04/2018 07:22

Life really is too short, to waste time with a man who can never put you first, or even, neve4 want to put you first.

Wdigin2this · 01/04/2018 17:36

The age old situation, DF leaves the family home, eventually settles with someone else. His DD is understandabley jealous and kicks off. DF is so guilt ridden, he can't say no to her, and consequently she gets away with murder....and continues to do so! He's being a DisneyDad, and it'll probably continue, if she's young even more so!
I used to avoid all men with young kids when I was single, and I would advise others to do the same. However, if she's grown up, then he needs to [man up] a bit, and act like a DF!

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Roseyapple · 02/04/2018 19:55

Thanks for your advice. We've been together for 2 years and she's nearly 20. We don't live together, he lives with his daughter and i live with my 2 sons.
We are unable to spend more than a few hours together as she'll call him nd demand he comes home. If he doesn't come back straight away she will wreck the house and keep calling him until he gives in. I'm at a point now where it's too much for me.

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TinaGurner · 03/04/2018 08:54

Jesus Christ she’s 20 and behaving like that?!
I’d walk away. This is not a child who needs nutriting, this is a grown woman behaving like a brat! Unfortunately at 20 years of age I can’t see the dynamic in their relationship changing

TinaGurner · 03/04/2018 08:55

Also if ANYONE deliberately wrecked my house, my own DCs included, I would be calling the police

SandyY2K · 03/04/2018 11:28

It sounds like she has deeper issues. No normal 20 year old wrecks the house because their dad is with his GF. She needs some intervention... possibly via a psychiatric assessment.

Not that he should lie...but can't he tell her he's out with a friend? Does she behave like this when he goes anywhere else or just out with you?

Allthebestnamesareused · 03/04/2018 11:30

Does she still have a relationship with her mother at all or is she deceased/nd and if so how long ago?

LineysInTheSand · 03/04/2018 16:37

She clearly needs help.

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