I’ve been with my husband 5 years
I have 3 children 22,18,13
He has a child 11
I’ve done everything for his child
His ex the child mother is a drug addict alcoholic which 3 years we begged social services to look into they said the house and kids are clean and tidy so no problem
Last year step father rang 111 nearly exactly a year ago begging for help with drink and drugs
Birth mother lied to everyone’s previously made out we are bad people and she’s a saint
She refuses to provide or buy anything for her children
So we had SD live here but social services were awful to us they sided with BM and all because the BM and SF apparently became ‘clean ‘ they wouldn’t communicate with our solicitor and said SD should live with her BM and so SD had to go back to BM 4 nights a week
BM seemed to get her act together but gradually showed signs of drug abuse again
Tonite SD rang my DH said mums on drugs she’s acting weird Stepdad came home 1 pm went to bed and wouldn’t take his head out from under duvet to talk to SD
DH and me told SD to come here she wouldn’t
So I messaged SD you need to come here and your dad will pick you up don’t tell your Mum as by then BM was off her face and I know she’s kick off bad at SD
Sadly SD then told her Mum I’m scared of you when you take drugs I’m going to Dads ( we live 10’minutes walk)
BM kicks off saying WHY WHY WHY WHY
Then told her daughter to f* off to your dads and never come back
So SD rang DH and she was walking here alone in the dark crying
DH went to collect her
BM rang DH phone I answered and BM was abusive to me calling me F@@@ Bitch she’s had enough and I can do her JOB she hang up then rang back calling me names and saying we are poisioning SD and I can do her fing job she doesn’t want her daughter Hung up
She was off her face
Social services don’t listen to us BM will lie again and no one believes us BM slates is to everyone and lies social services always prewarn here they are coming so BM goes clean 48 hours so tests are clean making us out to be liars
Not sure what to do solicitor won’t see DH inkess Social services say he should get court order to be SD carer
I know SD should be here and she is
I know BM is messed up
But no one believes us and SD gets made out to be a liar
Should SD see her BM ? Or Not ?