Struggling to cope

[Spanglyprincess1]

As a way of background I've just moved back from overseas having lived alone, I moved back as I was pregnant and have moved in with my partner. He has three children from last marriage. Im struggling to cope with the pregnancy and the three steps kids. We have them every other weekend and two nights in the week. If there are snow days or sick as my partner is self employed he always has them for example we have had them the last 13 out of 15 days even though he pays child support as the mum is their main carer. I work from home four days a week so find this too much as it often means no time and im tierd constantly as it's my first pregnancy/im iron deficienct. I take them swimming on weekends and love spending time with them but I'm struggling to cope. Anyone got any advice?

Talk with your partner I think see if yous can sort something out, it's not something you can do on your own.

Have you estbalished a relationship with these dc? Also I agree it’s your dp that is the problem he should be carrying out the care of his dc.

Hey Spangly - do you know what it is specifically that leaves you feeling like you're struggling?

Are you doing most of the childcare when they're with you, for example, or does having a full house that makes it hard for you to relax...?

Is it an option for you to not live with them just yet, it's an awful lot for both you ant the children to cope with so quickly. If he looking after them or is he seeing you in the Mum role for his existing children while they are there?

ladybee - i think it's the noise and full house combined with trying to work at home. I'm also exhausted from the pregnancy so find it hard to concentrate on tasks.
Lunar1 - financially no it isnt an option plus he wants to be there for the pregnancy and for the children. The custody means if we lived apart I wouldn't see him more than once a week or every other weekend which isn't enough in our current position. He works full time so struggles. He does a lot with them like taking to after school classes or homework, but I do other things like cooking for example. His daughter has taken a shine to me as she's outnumbered by men. So she is constantly asking for stuff or to sit with me or play girly activities. Which is lovely but takes up a lot of energy.

Thanks for everyone's advice. I think I'm mostly worried about being too run down pre baby and therefore struggling.