Do/did you ever worry about age gaps?

[CurlyRover]

Just that really. DSD is 6. I want to retrain and if I do we won't be able to ttc for another 5 years meaning DSD would be 11 when we have another DC (assuming I fell pregnant within the first few months).

That seems like such a huge age gap. Especially as we'd like 2 with a roughly 2-3 year gap between them. But even if I didn't retrain and we started trying now there would still be a 7 year gap between them and then a 10 year gap between her and the youngest.

What age gaps do you have and did it ever bother or worry you? How do you cope with such vastly different interests between them?

I do think age gaps matter speaking as someone who had two older brothers one with 8 years age gap the other 5 years. I pretty much was on my own due to fact I was a lot younger and a girl.

My ds however is 5 years older than my dd but he was also 5 when she was born so he was still little together and we had another Ds who will be 7 years younger and fairly close but they see each other everyday and I think dd helps close the gap between the two boys so to speak. DS1 also has a sister from his DF side who is 9 years younger than him so I would imagine that relationship will be different. I think it’s different when children go through their childhood together. My dh has two sisters one who is 18months younger who he’s really close with and grew up together and another sister who is 9 years younger who he isn’t as close to as when she was still a child he was an adult.

There’s 9 years between my DD and DSD; to be honest I think it works quite well as she loves helping with the baby and playing with her, is old enough to be left “looking after” the baby while I shower or cook (basically meaning Baby in the bouncer and shouting for me if she cries) and doesn’t see the baby as a threat whatsoever.
I’d like another baby with a smaller age gap so the two youngest can play together etc but if we don’t have another my DD will always have her big sister to look after her.

Six year gap between my boys (21& 15). Was difficult at times re activities, days out & holidays as I've also a girl aged 12. Plenty of compromise all round but they're the best of pals. They also have two half brothers on their dads side aged 3 & 2. 21 year old mad about them but seems himself more like an uncle. Other two have great fun with the little ones.
I was the youngest in my family by 9 years. It was lonely at times but also nice to have the space & we're all very close.
It will work out fine whatever you choose 💐

Large she gaps exist within families with the same parents and my observation is that it's not really ypur typical sibling relationship...because they are a generation apart.

The difference with half siblings is that it's even harder to be closer, as they will see each other less living in different homes.

That said...as they grow older...they often become closer.

It can be nice with a bit age gap. Huge age gap between myself and some of my older siblings, and I quite liked it. They're old enough at a certain age to take the younger siblings places like park or even just letting them tag along when they're with friends, and as the younger sibling in this situation I loved it.

My DSD and DD have a 10 year age gap and are quite close still. DD adores her big sister and is always looking for her, DSD loves her little sister and loves seeing all the new things she learns like sitting up, Crawling, climbing, new words etc.

Sometimes siblings that are close in age aren't close either.

I think it just depends on how parents treat the situation and on the siblings personalities. I won't lie though, even though I had my own siblings with large age gaps I did worry a little when I was pregnant that they wouldn't be close. It was fine, thankfully.