Stuck in the middle

[Tracy010]

Hi all,

I hope you can help me. I have been a single mom to my 2 children (son Is 27 and lives in Dubai, daughter is 20 and lives with me). I got married last year May to a guy I have know for 2 years now.

The problem is with my daughter - she hates him and thinks he is bad for me. They get on then don't get on. Last year she made me choice between him and her and they ended up having a fight where he raised his voice at her and swore at her. He also put his hand on her shoulders and she pulled away and then she said he pushed her. I made him leave after that and went for help where they don't me she is manipulating me. She is depressed and has been to therapy and on medication. In December she wrote him a card asking him to come back. Things where great for awhile and now she is telling me she did this all for me and didn't want to be a horrible person. She still feels scared of him she says and feels he is just pretending to be nice. So indirectly I am still stuck in the middle.

Can anyone suggest what I should do.

Desperate mom.

If a man put his hands on my child and swore at her that would be the end.

It’s very quick to marry someone after 2 year who doesn’t get on with your dd

Hi,

I know it is - I fell so head of heels in love with him. I am 46 and he is 49, so we thought why wait. I waited over a year before I lived with him and married last year May.

The question is I don't know whether my daughter just wants me to herself or is genuinely scared of him as sometimes she spends time alone with him and she has also done wrong to us when she used to get drunk. He has apologized plenty times and is trying I can see that. She says it's all an act, he is mean and she can't understand why I am with him even though she bought him back in December.

To give more details - after we got married they barely spoke, then when she bought him back they both made the effort and still now she is pleasant to him but behind his back she is telling me to leave already.

She sounds spoilt, entitled and jeleous she wants you all to herself.

She’s 20 years old and needs to grow up. She hates him and thinks he’s bad for you? Why does she hate him? Only you can say if he’s bad for you. She’s entitled to an opinion but isn’t the decision maker.

She made you choose? Who does she think she is? Are you always dictated to by her. No wounder he was annoyed.

Sorry children don’t dictate and i’m Not in the camp that kids come first. Everyone is equal. She’s 20 and is acting like a young child. If you pander yo get an he goes, how will you feel when she leaves home (which should be imminently) and you are on your own?