I’m really struggling. I’ve been with my partner a year, I’m 10 weeks pregnant due to failed contraception so please I already know it was too soon and wasnt planned. My partner was happy with the pregnancy and was always something he spoke about and wanted. He is very head strong and has worked away most of his life so he is used to taking care of himself and maybe takes a while to realise other people’s feelings but I know he cares deeply for me and is trying to build a future for me and my son and his thought process and intentions are good but not always his practise. He’s not used to children too much and I don’t think he quite knows how to treat kids as such and I feel he talks to my child as an adult sometimes. DS hasn’t been quite himself although my partner has been working away so I don’t see it having been the problem but on first meeting since coming home it was in my eyes a disaster but I am an anxious person and a worrier and perhaps very over protective of DS. It just seemed like I was refereeing two children. He would say inappropriate things about my child’s behaviour when tbh he wasn’t doing much wrong just trying to carry on, play fighting which dp started but would get annoyed if DS got too rough but he’s only 6. Saying things like he’s been bad and needs tell mummy he loves her etc and when I was explaining this isn’t way to go about things although I know he’s trying and looking out for me he just gets defensive and on a whole “I’m trying and I’m being ganged up on, I can’t do anything right” although I think slowly it sinks in when he’s left to think about it! I was just so happy before and thought this is going to bring our family together. Now I’m scared to tell DS about the baby and I’m honestly questioning if it’s a good idea! Does things get better. Are they just learning about each other or am I making a huge mistake!