My lovely DH has a 9yo DS who he sees during the week and EOW. We have been together 4 years and this arrangement has not changed ( except for holiday contact of course). I have a DS who is almost 4. Now my DH is very protective of his time with his DSand we spend EOW doing fun things and the boring stuff is kept for the weekends we don’t have him. In the four years we have been together we have NEVER gone out without the kids on the EOW weekend. We don’t go out much to be fair. I have raised the issue before but been shot down very quickly that this is his time with DS and he doesn’t want to go out. I do sort of understand and it’s not something I am suggesting we do every weekend.
However! It’s my birthday in a few weeks time and a friend has arranged an adults night out for us all. She’s an amazing cook and going to go to great lengths to provide us with lovely lovely food and wine ( I think my birthday is just an excuse to get the crowd together). Everyone else has organised babysitters for the night so we can all kick back and relax. My DH won’t go. Now I will go by myself but I’m getting really tired of this. AIBU???