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Step Daughter contacting 'modelling agencies'

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shoeaddict83 · 13/11/2017 14:00

SO SD is 12 but easily passes for 16yr old, people are usually shocked when they find out her age.

She loves acting and does alot of drama at school and loves messing about with her hair and makeup etc. Her Mum rang my DP this weekend to let him know she has just found out that SD has been speaking to someone online who says they are from a modelling agency and can take her photos to help with her acting career Hmm This 'photographer' has never asked her age, and quite obviously we know this scam and understandably both parents are furious as she has handed out her name and phone number and this person keeps trying to ring her.

Shes had her phone taken away by her mum, and whens she is with us this weekend she will have her ipad confiscated for a while too as punishment. She cant seem to understand the issues, and without begin too graphic and telling her usually these men ask you to strip off for 'photos' which then leads to other things, any advise for trying to explain this to her?

I have a great relationship with her and happily spoke to her when she started her periods etc so no issues, and after finding a fake instagram account she set up using some older models photo, we already had a convo with her about dangers of social media and online usage, so i just cant think of the best way to get across the seriousness of it without it coming across as a lecture just because were angry.
Were even more worried as she walks home from school every day and is there for a while on her own before her mum gets back, and although she swears she has not given out her address we cant be sure. Ive suggested we pass the number to the police so if this is someone preying on young girls they can maybe trap them, but thats up to them as the parents to decide.

We havent had SD since we found this out as we wont see her till our turn this weekend but wanted advise on how to approach this issue with her? Anyone had similar?

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shoeaddict83 · 15/11/2017 21:50

They don't have to go along with everything she wants, but they need to listen. If she was insisting on doing ballet, would they insist that they are not happy with her and stop her?
Again please read my post.
She wants to play music-her parents pay for keyboarding, she wants to act - they take her to drama club both in and out of school, she wants to sing- shes part of school and village choir, she wants to swim-she goes weekly to lessons, what part of that is her parents not supporting her or letting her do what she wants to? She does plenty!
She has NEVER expressed an interest in modelling, hence this entire thing being a shock that’s she’s chatting to someone online about it after this man told her modelling photos help acting careers-which is something she mentions all the time and we fully support.
I’m not sure why this isn’t being understood?

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