Stepchild often wants alone time with dp on family day out...wwyd?

[malificent7]

I encourage dp to have 1:1 time with his dd who is lovely. She's only 8. Often we will go out as a blended family ( my dd too) and she will ask to go off with her dad alone.
do you think he should ask her to wait till later. Often we will go off seperately and meet up later but sometimes i feel like im just being told to bugger off!

I think the little girl is trying to have some control in a life where she's had a lot of big decisions made for her. And why shouldn't she?
When you have these blended family outings, have either of the girls been asked if they want to go?
There's no reason why children should have to socialise with each other or with you if they don't want to.

There's no reason why children should have to socialise with each other or with you if they don't want to.

Couldn’t disagree more. There’s a whole heap of reasons which far outweigh anything else. One of which is growing up to at the very least have some manners and some toleration of her fathers partner, someone who could well be with him for life.

Imagine saying it the other way round...

There's no reason why step mums should have to socialise with their step children if they don't want to.

We should all just ignore and exclude each other, like that has ever worked!

The op says the girl sees her dad almost every day.

I also don’t agree with the statement -

‘there’s no reason why children should have to socialise with each other or with you if they don’t want to’

Since when did children dictate to adults?

The sooner children learn that they don’t always get their own way, life doesn’t revolve around them, and we have to tolerate others, the better.

Northern spirit apparently it's different when its a step child.

I'm not sure how but apparently it is. I'm sure all the people posting here saying the 8yo should be allowed her own way always let their own 8yos dictate family life too.