Anyone been involved with a third party coming in and assessing your home?

[TerraCloud]

I am looking for some advice. We (DP and I) are getting down to the (hopefully) last court/custody date. An independent third party clinical counselor is coming in to assess our home and the home of my dsk's bm.

My nerves are a wreck at the moment and I am rushing home most evenings just to clean and make sure the house looks perfect.

I just want to be sure that things will go okay for my DP and the children...

The assessor (sp?) is coming in this Monday April 9...

I've never had that sort of assessment - other than Ofsted checks when I childminded (which were hell). TBH they're probably looking for a happy, family home rather than one that's pristine and immaculate - families make mess, and they'll be used to that. Easier said than done, but relax!

We didn't have this. Dh saw a CAFCASS Officer but we didn't have a home visit. I agree with Hassled, they're looking for a family home, maybe somewhere for the children to sleep and appropriate toys?

I must admit though, I'd be rushing round like a whirling dervish too, even though I'm telling you there's probably no need!

Good luck. Are you going for residency or just a contact order?

We have primary care for both children but it is a bit sticky.

My dsd is split between our house and her mom's (2 wks w/mom; 2 wks with us). My DSS absolutely refuses to go live with his mom and dreads having to go there every 2nd weekend. DSS wants to stay with us. DSS is 12.

Their mom was absent for awhile - she did a lot of heavy drugs and still resides with her bf who got her hooked. Her bf also has 2 kids and his ex wife is a recreational user...

It is a mess. She (bm) has not paid for anything and we have looked after every need/activity/school. She has prolonged this court process for 1.5 years and we are in the final stretch. April 19 should decide everything.

The reason for this assessment - she does not accept my dss's decision to live with his dad, so we have to go through this assessment. My dss is tired of these assessments and the constant badgering he endures when he sees his mom "why have you changed your mind? Don't you know you are hurting my feelings?"... She corners him at school and makes a scene... he is 12 yrs old ffs!

Our home is fairly tidy and we just finished painting and personalizing the children's rooms.

It is slightly nerve racking.