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School uniform issues

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bitzy12 · 07/09/2017 09:49

We agreed to pay the majority for dsds school uniform in July. Absolutely no problem with this. We have 3 other children's uniform to also buy.
Bearing in mind that this is playgroup that the child will attend only 2 days a week but needs to wear uniform.

Partner had a phone call from dsds mother this morning saying we owe her £100 for her uniform. She's only gone and bought everything from the expensive shops for 2 days a week at play group.

Now when we agreed to pay in July, we offered to take dsd and get what she needed. We were told no. We were also told her that we cannot afford much and she had to budget it. My children's school clothes/shoes etc are from ASDA. I got the majority of the uniform for £80 for BOTH of my children. We paid £50 to partners other child and we know that covered most of it. We can't afford the John Lewis/Debenhams uniforms.

So basically she's gone and done the opposite of what we asked of her and also claims she doesn't want her child dressed in 'shitty George clothing'

We were expecting about £40. Dsd does need a proper uniform but like I say, it's 2 days a week.

What would you do? We can't afford £100 and she knows that

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swingofthings · 07/09/2017 09:58

Offer what it would have cost if shopping in Asda. She chose to go elsewhere it's for her to pay for that choice.

bitzy12 · 07/09/2017 10:03

Thanks, that's what I have suggested too to dp too

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Ilovetolurk · 07/09/2017 12:11

I think the 2 days a week is a bit of a red herring, DSD needs uniform which essentially means two of everything at that age

Can you ask her to provide receipts and then pay half

I am the first to buy supermarket uniform where I can but if the uniform has now been bought is it worth falling out over? Only you know that

Next year say we will give you x towards the cost. Maybe george will seem more appealing to her then

bitzy12 · 07/09/2017 14:36

She wouldn't provide the receipts when asked :-/ it's not worth falling out over but she had clearly just expected us to spend more on her child than our others.

I have 2 kids so I know you need 2 of everything, I'm not daft. But she just wants the child to be in top notch everything which is fine obviously but that's for her to pay for imo. We all said verbally it would be £30-£40 in July when first discussed.

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user1493413286 · 07/09/2017 16:12

I'd give her £30-40 as you'd all discussed as either she's taking advantage by beherself by expensive uniform or isn't being honest about how much it cost.

littlehandcuffs · 07/09/2017 16:37

I am struggling to see how it could possibly cost £100.00, it will just get covered in paint and mud....

AnneLovesGilbert · 08/09/2017 14:41

I agree, give her the £40 you said you would and leave it at that. She's being daft and unfair and if she has expensive tastes she can foot the bill for it.

Identity1 · 09/09/2017 19:01

I'd definitely just give her what you think is a fair contribution and £40 sounds very reasonable to me. My DS attends nursery 3 days a week and has to wear uniform as he's in preschool now. It cost me about £40 for his uniform (excluding shoes as he already has them) and that's with 5 pairs of trousers from next because I struggle with his size in trousers. But as you say t-shirts, vests, undies, socks etc from Asda. £200 total is ridiculous.

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