Thinking that I don't want kids

[Stepmum21]

If you read my last post, you'll understand why I am coming around to the decision that I don't want to have children. I love my husband, I love our life. I don't love my step son at all and I hate the way my partner "parents." Has anyone got the same situation or have any advise?

Haven't read the last post but doesn't sound as thou you should be with your partner.

Maybe you would change your mind about having children if you were with someone who you believed could 'parent' a child in the way you wish them to.

Just read your other post.

It sounds as thou your step son has a lot of issues with having to act much older than his age at home and therefore plays up when he is with you and his dad and acts younger than his age.

His behaviour sounds completely out of order thou, the racism and rude remarks. However, if your partner allows him to behave this way and doesn't teach him this is wrong it's not going to improve.

Maybe you are better off out of the situation. You certainly wouldn't want to have your own child with this man who can't parent the child he already has and I know I wouldn't want my child around an 11 year old boy who behaves this way

Is he really worth missing out on the possibility of children of your own? You could find someone more compatible and have a lovely family.

It does sound like you have made this decision for the wrong reasons. I get why you don't want to complicate things further by bringing in another child, but the risk is that your problems with DSS and your dislike of your DH as a parent get worse, and you end up with all that PLUS the resentment that you sacrificed having your own children for this.

I feel the same way. To the point i told my oh i dont want any kids of my own with him because i dont like the way he parents (he basically just doesnt).

No need for me to find someone else im happy with this decision. We get along great now aside from the issues with his kids - something i know we can improve with time.

I think my oh wants another one but you just have to decide if its what YOU can live with. If your like me and dont see yourself as missing anything then your oh should support that.

If you don't want children, for whatever reasons....don't have them!