Trying to cheer up SS's Mum

[36plusandtrying]

Hi all,

SS due to be dropped off today, DH will be at work and I've heard that my SS's mum has had a really tough week. We have had our differences in the past, but we get on well now and work as a team. All I want is the best for her and for her to be happy (she bloody deserves it and has done an amazing job raising SS) I was at the shops last night, getting supplies for SS coming and thought how tough for her not having anyone to do that for her on a Friday. So I picked up some flowers, small thing of chocolates and a bottle of wine to give her when she drops off SS. But now I'm doubting myself and think this may be a little OTT. For those mum's with step mums in your life would this be gratefully received or am I over stepping?

God I'd love that. My sons SS just thinks I'm the devil incarnate because I've had her husbands child and she can't. A bit of support would probably make me cry happy tears.

Thanks ! Ok it's the right thing to do, you know when you just question yourself ! (Sorry to hear you have a hard time)

You sound so lovely & thoughtful. She and your SS are very lucky to have you.

Aw that's lovely - so often they are at war with each other

It all depends on how the dynamic is really.

I would think it was really odd if my kids step mum turned up with gifts for me tbh.

I would find this extremely thoughtful.

My ds dad does this for me sometimes and I really appreciate it - he turns up to visit with a bacon butty too, which is also very welcome!

Go for it!

This may be a little late for replying - I would give my SS the presents to give to his mum from him. She will still know the kind gesture is from him but may not feel embarrassed / put out by it if her son gave her the gifts
I hope whatever you decided to do went well x

Kind gesture from you sorry x

Do it - if you have a good relationship which you now do.

When my family were all doing their best to pass away in the same 18 months, a small bit of recognition from the SM and less of the refusal to have her DSCs in the house on holiday etc would have been much appreciated.
My 2 DCs aged 4 and 6 at the time, went to the undertakers with me, florist, printers, get the deathe cert, registering everything because she told EX she could not cope with them being sad and discussing with her DCs! All things they remember and were way to young to have to face.

Would have loved it, if it had been me - probably had me blubbing but would have just been kind.

I'm late to the thread but go for it - you sound lovely :)

I went with my gut and gave her the little goodie bag we both had a cry ! She was really appreciated it, so did SS and DH - Glad I did x

Good on you! I do something for DH's EW, that means she goes away occasionally...never had any thanks for it though!