Adult step child

[moonlightandkisses]

Which is a contradiction in terms...

I'm married with inherited step children, all adults. I've consciously tried to be in background and be reassuring that they remain their father's priority as my children (all adults) are for me. My dh's youngest is early 20's but needy and unreasonable and disrespectful. I've kept my opinions to myself but it's clear she dislikes me.

The upshot is, she posted a foul, hurtful and frankly libellous rant on social media about me. It was so foul, I'm not sure I can get past it. She's apologised (not very gracefully) but all our friends and relatives saw the post, the vast majority were disgusted by what she wrote. Her father is furious, ashamed and disappointed to say the least but she has children and he doesn't want to be cut off from them.

I want to do what is right for him but this is going to take some fixing.

Any advice for me please?

It's done now, she's apologised, grow a thick skin and try and move on. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this

What seems to be at the heart of her issue with you? Do you think it's something she can move past and properly apologise for, or does it seem unlikely she'll ever change her opinion of you? How long have you been with your DH?

At the risk of being flamed.....it's jealousy. I've been in this situation, not had foul things said about me on SM, but a pretty horrible, and upsetting thing happened! I refused to speak to the adult SC, until a full and heartfelt apology was given....took a while, but when it came it was accepted....but I made sure that the SC knew I would never tolerate that kind of behaviour again! Nor will I!!

Frankly, if she posted something poisonous on SM, then she should not only apologize to you she should put a full retraction on SM, too.

I'm not a stepparent, but I think in your situation I'd have to consider a huge step back from this particular SC. I wouldn't stop their dad from seeing them, but I think I'd make myself a bit more scarce in the future.

It's jealousy and my dh's ex in the background I think.

After the upset and sting has subsided, I'm feeling really bloody angry. She's withdrawn from her father now.

An update. Said step child asked us round tonight. Assumed to build bridges. I've had a glass of juice thrown at me and been physically assaulted.

I'm now sitting here on my own as my husband has been arrested for alleged ASSAULT of her.

Just seen this and hoping that everything is OK

That sounds pretty intense!

What is going on now? It sounds like it went from nastiness on social media to a serious physical incident? Has there been anything like this in the past - or is this very unusual all around?

Well, shit! That's an update to beat all!

Don't know the ins and outs and am not asking for details!

Just wishing you peace and strength.

Poor you! That sounds off the scale. I hope your DH is okay.

I was just about to post a similar thread on here when I read yours! I'm in a similar position although the unkind and hurtful comments were sent via text to me direct. My OH can see no fault in his child. I'm beside myself. Sorry just read your update. How awful for you all. I'm not sure I'm helping but I hope you find strength and support. X

I'm so sorry to read this. I hope things gets sorted for your DH. Some SC can never get over their parents' split and carry on behaving badly towards new partners. I'm not sure how to advise because my own DSD behaves badly to me, not like your situation, but it causes a lot of upset. She's nice though when she wants something. I've had counselling suggested but as there is no communication between unless she chooses to, I think it would be a waste of time.

I've been in my relationship for nearly 9 years I met his son when he was eight he is very is 15 very rude to me does not a acknowledge me to say hello or goodbye. Constantly digs at me. He if a controlling child who wants to control his dad and my son. When he's with us which is every weekend. My partner's ex is nightmare money grabbing and bully. my daughters 18 and she doesn't like the way his son treats me and my partner can a bit rude sometimes she doesn't feel welcome at her home at the moment so I'm going for a big nightmare. We have a three-year-old son and he is lovely and I don't know what to do for the best do I get out of this relationship because it's so hard trying to put up with it all but feel it's too much. I have had to let my oh son and ex be horrible in the past so we could keep contact. Now had enough. My daughter has a boyfriend they were staying at our which we agreed. They were giggling in her room. 10.30pm Saturday night not too loud. My partner went storming snappy and horrible agreesive towards them. My daughter has his own flat he's only 19 but had his own place since 16 he's had a tough life so I was trying to keep her close but my partner is pushing her away. So lost right now.