Do you financially contribute to your SC?

[Littlepiggybrown]

At present we put both our salaries in to a pot, take money out for house, bills and SC maintenance and then split 50/50 so we have the same amount of spends.

Child benefit for my DC goes in to the household pot too, but the token maintenance I receive from my ex (as we have 50/50 so technically I'm not entitled to any) goes in to my own account to pay for clothes/shoes/school stuff etc.

I'm just curious if this is the norm? A part of me is kind of begrudging loosing out on money for myself each month because I am paying out for children/an ex wife that aren't mine (I don't obviously mind paying household stuff).

i get that we are a family, but at the same time feel
A bit annoyed that I have so much more less disposable income as a result.

We pool all our income and see the family as one unit (we all live in the same household and our exes are only minimally involved). DH earns 5x what I do so it's DS and I who are better off out of this arrangement, but DH has never begrudged it and would never consider anything else. I lost my tax credits and child benefit when we moved in together so I do see the children's finances as DH's responsibility to an extent, as I'd still be getting money for them if it weren't for his salary. This way makes things simpler for us and we never argue about money.