Is this normal for stepfamily life?

[PeppersTheCat]

This is my first experience of being in a stepfamily. I have read that the first few years of stepfamily life are usually crap. I have posted a thread detailing my (so far horrific) experience in 'chat' so it will get deleted after 90 days for privacy reasons. Please visit:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/2983872-Is-this-normal-for-stepfamily-life?watched=1

Apologies to Mumsnet if such linking is not allowed.

I don't really know why you're posting on here when you've received lots of answers on the other thread.

No of course it's not normal. I am a step mum and of course it has its moments but generally speaking it is a very rewarding and fulfilling experience and one based on mutual love, patience, hard work and understanding from all involved.

I agree with the other posters on your other thread that you need to leave this man, that goes without saying.
There seems to be a lot going on and I have a feeling there's more to it you've not said from your part.

Didn't want to read and run and wish you all the best. This situation will not get any better if you are still with your partner. That's a fact.
If you won't leave for your own good, leave for your unborn child.

I don't really know why you're posting on here when you've received lots of answers on the other thread.

To direct stepparents to it.

I have a feeling there's more to it you've not said from your part.

You probably won't answer as I suspect you're being goady, but what do you mean "from my part"?

OP great advice from PP above that if you cannot leave for you leave for your children. This is not normal or acceptable

On your other post you asked what is abusive- the answer is everything you have described. Even more worryingly you say that there is more.

Please speak to your midwife, mental health workers and contact women's aid.

All the court stuff is abusive? It was carried out by "professionals". I was starting to think this was stepfamily life.

I'm worried that if I tell health professionals the true extent of what is going on, SS will get involved and take my baby away, limit my contact with my children, or force me to leave him before I'm ready.

The whole situation is wrong. He's abusing and abusing your children. if SS get involved and find you're not protecting your DC, you could be forced to leave him anyway, or risk losing your kids.

Leave him. He's abusive and you need to protect your children.

Peppers you posted this in AIBU yesterday!!!

Sorry - meant Chat! Not normal. Leave, contact SS and don't look back