Can I just have a little boast...

[kittensinmydinner1]

It's official.. I am a fairy stepmother !
Despite never providing them with a bedroom of their own.. despite muddling through for a decade...
Despite some batshit crazy court shenanigans from both sides..
despite them ALL being arsey teenagers.. sometimes, just occasionally they say something that just makes all the hard times worthwhile..

Anyone else got a moment to share ? Just to prove it's not all a relentless, thankless slog..

Well done, that's really lovely
What a heartwarming testament to your fairy stepmothering.

One of my recent ones was when DSD said she sometimes wishes she didn't have to live in two different houses as mum and dad are divorced, but she wouldn't ever want to lose me.

I gave you her a big hug so she didn't see me tearing up.

That's lovely. ! I am so please you posted but so depressed that only one response.. I know step mothering is pretty tough but was hoping for more than two positive stories ☹️

My SD always makes me pictures and tells me she loves me and I'm the best ever. She's always asking to see me and wants to play with me. I love my SD so much

Awwww that's so sweet. How old is she ?

She's only 5. Still means the world to me though

My DSS (17) told me he definitely didn't hate me!!! It's taken him 7 years to definitely decide this so I think it's progress!

That is so lovely to read. It makes it all worthwhile.

I am very fortunate to have a good relationship with mine but certain moments stand out
First was on Valentine's Day when I received a card from DSD (7)

She also calls me Lucy from Despicable Me (she is the youngest of 3 girls so associates herself with them)

There are so many moments actually... ( although very aware she is at a lovely age)

Actually as I'm writing this she is snuggled.up with me after telling me how lucky she is because she has three of us to love her.

Babynugget that is a excellent progress! I love it

My stepdaughter definitely loves me and wouldn't change me for the world. Probably the most proof I have of that nowadays is the regular I love yous and treating me exactly like she treats her parents she's not always being nice and cute and like I'm a visitor now

There's been a lot of close and loving moments, but today something a bit different stood out - my 7-year old SD collapsed sobbing in my arms earlier when I asked if she was ok - she confessed that she'd split up with her boyfriend and was worried he'd be really sad about it.

I thought I'd done pretty well to have her confide in me like that after only eight months! My girlfriend reassured her that they have many many years to be friends and boyfriend/girlfriend if they want...

(and yes, I'm aware that some psychologists might link it to her parent's split, but if she's found a way of expressing it and seeking comfort then I still think that's good!)

My 7yo SD told me she loves me the same as her dad, then whispered to me after that she loved me slightly more I think this was because I did bedtime and agreed to read an extra chapter last night though!

My youngest DSD10 looked earnestly in my face and said ' I love you Ultrababy'. Just as I was about to tear up she said 'but I really love Ultradog'
And back to earth with a bump

Ds1 said to me about DH (not long after DH died) "he wasn't really like a step dad was he ... he was more like a dad".
(Their dad is fully present in their life).
Tore me up that DH hadn't know he felt like that.
SO nice that you all do!

Chasingsquirrels. So sorry for your loss. That's quite some legacy for your DH to leave behind though. He must have been a wonderful man. How are you managing?