So it's easter hols and we've spent the last 5 days battling DSD and it's awful. Everything has been hard work. We tried taking her out to the zoo for the day on Saturday which she originally wanted to go but as soon as we were there she had several meltdowns. She didn't want to leave the play area, she didn't want to see the elephants or the giraffes or anything else, she had a meltdown at the top of some steps- at which point I picked her up and carried her down as I was worried she was going to hurt herself if she kept stropping right at the top of the steps. Her big thing is saying (or rather shouting) she wants mummy - and she shouts she wants daddy when she's with her mum - and I think it's because she's upset and doesn't know what she wants so she wants the one thing she can't have. Neither I or DP know how to deal with it. It wasn't just the zoo, it was every bed time has taken over an hour and a half to settle her down, things like getting dressed end up in a half hour meltdown, brushing teeth, not seeing her grandparents, seeing her grandparents just every single thing over the last few days have resulted in meltdowns. We've tried talking to her calmly, enforcing rules such as if you don't start listening to us when we tell you to calm down at the top of the steps then you won't be allowed in the play area, walking away for a few mins to calm down (only in the safety of the house of course). Neither of us know what else to try. Clearly she's not happy but what the heck do we do? Something needs to be done for all of our sakes but what?! Any suggestions?!