Help! Step-daughter is going to start coming to stay more often.

[Surfermum]

It's good news, it really is. Dh has always wanted to see her as much as he could, but until now that's been every 3rd weekend as per the Court Order.

A few weeks ago dsd asked if she could start coming to us every other weekend, so when dh dropped her off they spoke to her mum who said she'd think about it. We'd been expecting a flat no, which is what he would have got a few years back! This last time she was with us she asked again, so once again they brought it up when she was dropped off and this time her mum said that she couldn't think of a reason why not.

Dh is delighted, dd will be over the moon as she misses her big sister so much when she isn't here BUT ....... she spends as much time on the PC as I do, MSNing and Beboing and stuff. It means we'll be having big arguments about PC time and my mumsnetting will be seriously affected . Maybe it's time for a laptop.

Seriously though, it's great news and I just wanted to share it as so many threads on the step-mums section are about difficult situations and I just thought it would be nice to have a good news one for a change.

are you wireless? get a laptop, cheap as chips now. or has she got one she could bring with her maybe? sorted!

Oh that is definitely worth a laptop. It is managing the situation by identifying the potential problems and avoiding them. Great news though

No, she doesn't have a PC at home, so it's an added attraction. In fact, it's probably been a deciding factor for her, that and making sure her fortnightly visits co-incide with the girl next door's visits to her Dad!!

We're not wireless but I'm thinking it's something I should seriously look into for dh's business .

Nice thread, surfermum. Your dsd is a lucky kid to have so many nice people in her life.

Lovely news. I'd celebrate with a new laptop and wireless

Its so nice to see a lovely thread about SDs on here for once.

Good Luck.

She'll get more wear out of the clothes I buy her too. She grows like topsy and as soon as I've bought her a pair of jeans they're flapping round her shins!

It's been a long time coming, Anniemac. It's about 8 years since the Court Order and for ages her mum thought it wasn't fair if dh got any contact over and above that. Dsd has a phone again (last one was taken off her when she phoned dh after an argument with her mum) and she seems to ring dh at random times for no particular reason at all - he is over the moon that that's allowed to happen. Until now he's only been able to talk to her once a week in a half hour window .

But I'm pleased to say things seem really good between dh and dsd's mum these days, he even gets to go in for a cuppa when he picks her up. It can only be good for dsd to see her mum and dad interacting "normally" and for her to be having a bigger say about who she is with and when.

This is all a bit new to me. I logged on to speak to a lady who posted a message ages ago about her daughter being accepted by a specialist ballet school, which I had an awful time at.... sorry to waffle so much but I happened upon these pages and I'm really having such a hard time at the moment.
I'm 28 and settled now with the man who I think will be my life partner or at least the father of my kids.
One BIG problem though!
He's been going through a divorce for much longer than the two and a half years we've been together, has a son and the ex-wife is bananas.
I don't know what to do, we have not seen the little boy for three months now, the ex uses him as a weapon and I had no idea of what I was letting myself in for when I fell for this man.
I feel for my partner so much when he's denied access and find myself feeling so angry when the law is so unjust where fathers rights are concerned.
It would be such a help if anyone my age has some similar experiences to share.

Charlotte

Start a thread, Charley - that's the best way to find people who can help.