Hi, i have a 6 yr old stepson, a 21 month old daughter and a 8 month old son. eldest and daughter fight like cat and dog, really getting me down, and me and step-son don't exactly get on that well. more of a hate love relationship really. Both love his dad but not eachother. It feels like a constant battle. I try to have a good relationship with him but he constantly throws it back in my face whenever he can't get his own way. Husband is going through a four year court battle with his ex p. because she is mentally uncapable of looking after dss, he uses this against us when we argue saying well do you want me to go, i'll go live with her if you like. There is a no win situation at the moment and dh is in a tight spot. he doesn't want her to get access or go to court. dss has behavioural problems some of which have led to him strangling his little sister on one occassion, hitting her over the head with heavy toys, deficating in the bathroom on the floor creating a big mess, if you get my drift, He refuses to get up in the night to do a wee and wets the bed or wets in the corner of the room. i could go on...but i won't.
We have tried everything to get him to calm down and behave in a normal way but to no avail.
That's kinda how things have been since he was 2 and a half. It would just be nice to chat to other step-mums. How do you control a child like this?