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Child maintenance.

45 replies

laidbackmummy13 · 05/03/2017 16:41

Without fail my oh pays child support every month. That's not an issue.
The issue currently though is the amount.

So does anyone know if we could have the maintenance reduced due to the children we have together having additional medical needs?

We often have unexpected hospital trips and both require extra things to help their medical conditions.
Is there a way to get those expenses taken into consideration?

*please note that we are aware that a reduction would not impact on ex and child's lifestyle at all.

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laidbackmummy13 · 05/03/2017 18:33

Just looking at it now

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backaftera2yearbreak · 05/03/2017 18:37

To apply for DLA you have to demonstrate your child has additional needs in comparison to another child the same age. If you get the form please find a welfare agency to assist you filling it in. Get as much medical evidence as you can to support your claim.

flumpsnlumpsnstuff · 05/03/2017 19:23

Laidback I think DLA may be worth a look, although I get you asking the question if you get along with his ex and know it wouldn't impact on them I would speak to them before claiming other allowances. In fact I actually think it's very responsible to think this way.

SookiesSocks · 05/03/2017 19:28

How is taking money from the other children responsible? Why should those children have less when there are benefits in place to help disabled children financially?

Underthemoonlight · 05/03/2017 19:38

The eldest needs should remain the same regardless if his DF went on to have more DC that was his choice he still has a commitment to his first child of whom he doesn't live with.

charlestrenet · 05/03/2017 19:41

I don't understand how a cut in household income won't affect the other children. Of course it will. Sure, they may not be on the breadline because of it but less money is less money so it will affect them.

DLA is a much better plan but do go to a specialist advisor for help in claiming it - they will know how to word things so that your claim is successful. It will also open up other possible sources of help such as charities and like a pp said the disability element of child tax credits - again, you'd have to apply for that.

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laidbackmummy13 · 05/03/2017 19:45

As I said, it was one of the things we were looking at. But was not going to be the first recourse. Just couldn't find any info at all online.

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Marmalade85 · 05/03/2017 20:20

Maintenance is based on income, not outgoings.

ZilphasHatpin · 05/03/2017 20:22

But was not going to be the first recourse.

Surely it should have been the first recourse!!

TalkingofMichaelAngel0 · 05/03/2017 20:24

The first recourse was stopping picking the dsc up due to petrol costs. Honestly op id walk away now as people clearly haven't yet put two and two together to remember your previous posts about your attitude towards your step child.

SookiesSocks · 05/03/2017 20:34

Oh dear I have just looked at the other threads.

Blimey OP you seem hell bent on pushing your DSC out of your life both physically and financially.

I honestly think you really would rather she went without than you claim the benefits available to you. Thats just downright mean.

SookiesSocks · 05/03/2017 20:37

Just couldn't find any info at all online.

I just googled DLA for children and 1 second later the first link on the page was the .gov website. Not difficult at all to find Hmm

Underthemoonlight · 05/03/2017 20:43

I just looked at the thread and didn't register you were the poster who wanted her DSD to get a bus in the winter because your dh to go and collect her.

ZilphasHatpin · 05/03/2017 20:49

Oh this is the poster who gives more and more complicated reasons why they can't do X/pay Y for dsd anymore.

TalkingofMichaelAngel0 · 05/03/2017 20:55

Yes. unfortunately two Landrovers take a lot of money to run... Hmm

ZilphasHatpin · 05/03/2017 21:01

Oh yes the land rover!! It's all coming back to me.

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laidbackmummy13 · 05/03/2017 21:03

Yes. We wanted her to take a bus while he was unable to drive. A bus she is happy to take any other time for any other reason.
It was a simple question.
But yeah attack me all you wish. I simply needed some information.

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SookiesSocks · 05/03/2017 21:07

A quick google would have goven you the info.

I read the bus thread and tbh it is not as simple as you are making out.

However back to this thread. Please do get some help completing the DLA form as suggested above. I know having a child who requires extra care can be a financial strain and DLA can help with that.

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laidbackmummy13 · 05/03/2017 21:09

I have actually spent hours on google getting info on every option. I did try before coming in here. Thank you to those who were helpful and answered my question.

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Underthemoonlight · 05/03/2017 21:34

I think this is an excuse to reduce the amount of maintenance given your previous thread you were very resentful about spending money relating to your DSD

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