Hi everyone,
I have 2dsc, 1dd and am 5 months pg. I am starting to stress over where we are going to put everyone, and I'm hoping people out there will help me relax about it.
We have a 3 bed house, the 3rd room being 7ft by 6ft. My dsc stay over 1 night every other w/e and then in hols etc. At the moment dsd has a camp bed put up for her in dd's room when she stays over. Dsd is 12 , dd is 3. Dss sleeps on a cabin bed that has been built into the small room.
The plan is that the small room will become the nbursery for the baby , as it was for dd1. The room is so small that you cannot fit a single bed in it, it has to built in over the stairs iyswim. And it is quite high, like a midsleeper, and so what we did was used the top as a baby change, as it was a perfect height, and for storing all the baby stuff, and the cot went opposite, There was no room to swing a cat, but back then it meant that dsc could share the bigger room.
Now, if we do the same with dd2 , the problem I cannot keep off my mind is where do we put dss? Dh wants to keep the mattress and duvet on the cabin bed so he can sleep there when hes here, and just push it up against the wall when hes not.
I absolutely hate this idea. To me, it is the babys room and I donot want anyone in there , at all. My step children, my own daughter, even me. Its my babys room. I want to be able to do little things to make it my babys like put the baby pics on the wall and the toy hammock, and not have to see a massive mattress and duvet up against the wall everytime i go in there. I just want it to be perfect for my baby, just while he/she is a baby.
Im thinking cant dss sleep on a blow up bed in with dd and dsd? I know its not ideal, but its only every other w/e. But Dh doesnt think its right thats heshould sleep on a blow up bed. Also I keep thinking that the cabin bed was full of stuff when dd was in there, and we will have to remove all that and out it where exactly, on our small landing for everyon e to trip over? THe baby will be in with us for 6 mths anyway so the room will just be used for all its stuff and nappy changes and baths. But after that I dont want to think I have to rush in everytime the baby cries incase it wakes up dss.
THe other option is that dsc no longer stay over. THey only live a few miles away so instead of havin coming every other w/e sat to sund, we could see the, every weekend, one time for the sat and the next week the sund, and take them back at the end of the day. In some wasy this seems better as we would actaully get to see them more, and all the stress completely disapperars, but I don tknow how they would feel abou tthis. Does anyone have comtact arrangements like this, how does it work out?
It really is stressing me out, and I keep thinking am I just letting my pg hormones rule my life, and that its not that big a deal. Its only one night a fortnight . But then I keep thinking that when the baby comes I can see myself crying adn stressing and going completely over the top about all of this, and making it into a massivce deal.
What does everyoone think, am I going mad. DO i have too much time on my hands to be thinking about all of this. I hope somemone can understand cos to me its a big deal, rightly or wrongly. I just want it all to be perfect for my baby , like it was for dd1, I cant see the problem in dss sleeping on a blow up bed. If we had the money for a room for each for them, and a permanaent bed when they came then we would do it, but we dont, we just have to make do.
Please someone help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I feel better just for writing all that.