Moving in my boyfriend as a step dad

[ashashash]

hi, I have been in a relationship for over a year with my boyfriend. He currently lives with his nan, and it feels like a natural progression for him to move in. I have two children from 2 relationships. My eldest speaks to her dad once a week, and my youngest has no communication with his father at all. (His choice). My youngest (whos 2) adores my boyfriend, and they have a real bond. My boyfriend is also brilliant with my eldest. its clear to see that both of my children crave a consent male figure in the house and are elated when hes here. I'm just slightly nervous. I havnt lived with a man for a long time and he doesn't earn much money. Not that I care about money, I just don't want to struggle even more. I am a part time student and on benefits atm.as much as my eldest loves him being here, her behaviour in the last 6 months has noticeably nose dived. I suspect its just her age, being 6, but I also cant help thinking it might have something to do with the unsettled home atm. with my boyfriend staying 3 nights and 4 days week, and the readjustment when hes not there for the other 4 nights. I am thinking maybe I should hurry up and move him in so we can all settle, or backing off a little because a year isn't really a long time is it??
Its such a huge step, and I feel that one child wants it more then the other, but maybe that's just because one of the children needs it more? I'm not sure what to do for the best.

Any advice, or wise words would be great :)

Well well the DWP have to find ways to meet sanctioning targets don't they

Ash - don't be disheartened by the replies on here. We don't know the full facts and a lot of posters make assumptions based on what little information you give.
Having been in a similar situation to yourself I would say take your time. Work out your finances, who owns what, who will pay for what, discuss every possible scenario with your bf, including parenting styles, who makes decisions etc etc. Make sure you will be financially secure regardless of his job.
Don't rush into this, you will do more damage to your dc if you move him in then he leaves later on when things don't work out.
Regarding your 2yo, be as honest as possible about his dad. Don't tell him your bf is his dad but let their relationship develop naturally into a father/son arrangement.

Finance issues aside - OP I would make your decision based on how stable, compatible and committed you are to each other. It is a big decision, so I wouldn't see any reason to rush - I wonder whether you are fishing for reasons to do it soon? If you are very stable, can handle any financial changes, and you work well as a team, then make your decision.

There is one thing that I'm not sure of, you say your 6 year olds behaviour has gone downhill? It's not that normal for this age, and I wouldn't have thought it was due to your BF living in or not. It could even be worry about your BF. Is he respectful of your kids? I'd look for other reasons - are they ok at school? Anxious? Worried? Are you all OK about rules and behaviour?