SS is addicted to video games

[GoingCrazy81]

I'm at the end here. My SS (12) is addicted to video games. His mom is not really helping, cause she buys him everything. He owns now 2 laptops, 2 tablets, a wii, a xbox, his own TV, an iPhone so he can be online 24/7.... she got him a phone case with a battery pack and an external charger he takes to school.
My girls only have their electronics for road trips or an hour on the weekends.
He can't go outside and play without coming in every 5 minutes and check if anything happend on his games. It drives me insane. He gets upset when we tell him no, or even has to put it down for homework/studying. On top of that he is far behind in school.
Now I'm only the bad step parent not letting him on his electronics all day. My husband doesn't wanna hurt his feelings so he let's him do whatever. On top of that my SS uses it to pressure us that he wants to go to his moms house if he can't be on his electronics. We have him every 2 weeks or when his mom can't watch him.
It drives me insane and for sure it isn't great for our marriage and a constant fighting point. Do I just have to let it go and tell myself he's not my child? Even though I know it is bad for him and he could be way further in school if I would be aloud to help him more???

No advice, but poor kid! He's missing out on so much. It would drive me insane too.

Before even clicking this I knew it would be all his mums fault. But your partner doesn't bother to parent him either, maybe his mum doesn't want to hurt his feelings either. It's a shame at least one of them doesn't want to parent him, I'd not stick around for that!

Let it go.

His actual parents don't give a shit. You're not going to win 3 against 1.

For his mom it's just a thing to get him out of the way, plus when you see her she is always on her phone. We organized all his birthday parties since we are together. She shows up and is on her phone. We thought him swimming, how to tie his shoes, he just learned how to ride a bike, ...
I think for my hubby a big part is that they are moving far away next year (both military) so he doesn't wanna do anything to make his son not wanting to come over at all right now.

It's just so hard. :( Maybe if he would be up to date in school I wouldn't have such a big problem with it.

My son had a gaming addiction. It's not always about good or bad parenting. Not very different to any other addiction and extremely difficult to deal with. Perhaps though your dh doesn't understand the implications for his son, or is in denial. It's definitely not going to change unless all the adults in your dss's son are united.

Son=life, auto correct sorry

He says all the kids play video games. But like yesterday my stepson came home from school we had to do homework and study. But the whole time he was worried that his phone and games run out of battery. That was what he was worried about the whole time. He can't concentrate at all, cause all he's worried about is batteries and what happens in the games while he's not on it.

If the parents don't care, you can't do anything except brace yourself for when your girls want 24/7 access too.

FIL has a good solution for BIL.... he turns off power to his bedroom at the fuse box!