Can I not take one night off to be sick without the house falling apart?!

[thephin]

Hello ladies, I just need to have a bit of a rant.
Why is it so hard for my DH and the children to pick up after themselves? I am tired of being a maid!!! Is it unreasonable for them to help clean up around the house? Or to even turn off the lights when they leave the house?
I mentioned to DH that I was not feeling well (last night)- touch of the flu. I was sick, tired and achy - I went to bed with a high fever. I just started a new job so I am unable to take a day off work at the mo. I figure rest would be the best medicine to fight the fever and drinking lots of fluid.
I find it frustrating that I cannot take an evening off to feel better, without feeling guilty. I tried to have a bath - my dsk's fought outside the door. DSD was slamming drawers and her door... Obviously - not going to relax, I get out of the tub, clean up the bathroom and try to lay down. DH keeps coming into the bedroom saying the kids are being demanding of his time; how he has to get dinner ready and get the kids organized. I tried to get up to help, got dizzy and sick. Layed back down.
I have been cooking all week; picking up all week; my DSS was sick earlier this week - I stayed home and looked after him, cleaned the house and made dinner. My DH's excuse last night was that he was too tired and the kids were too demanding and fighting.
I woke up and got ready for work this a.m. This bug has moved into my chest and my fever is down - just coughing a lot. I am armed with Tylenol and lozenges. I go to the bathroom - towels all over the floor and toilet paper around the waste basket (not in). Hair products and toothpaste all over the sink. I had just cleaned the bathroom last night while I tried to have a bath! I go to the kitchen to make my lunch - dishes all over the place and bread crumbs on the counter - nothing is cleaned...
I just left for work - tired and upset. I will grab something for lunch from the local sandwich place near my work.
My DSS is 12 yrs old and DSD is 10 yrs old. They are old enough to know better to pick up after themselves.
I am just feeling ill, frustrated and tired. I will go and see the doc on my way home. I just needed to rant...

are you me?

how horrible for you, this is not right. They are old enough to at least clear up a bit after themselves and sounds like dh is being really selfish. Hope you feel better soon and have a better evening today.

I completely understand. Do your dsks live with you full or part time? Are you likely to get any time to yourself in the near future? Hope you are feeling better.

I'm not sure if it's that he is so used to me doing everything around the house and as such has no clue what to do when I am ill, or maybe that he just can't be bothered because I will do it all when I am better. The worst thing is that I think maybe he thinks that this is what I do. Just look after our son and do nothing else.

Some consideration would be nice. They know you are feeling bad, would it be beyond them to do something nice. My favourite quote is "I was just about to do that". HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

Lazyline - that is so true about your quote "I was just about to do that"... I hear that so often. I so often want to retort "then do it!!"

I do know what you mean... I know my dh works hard, and I know he has a lot on his mind as we are still in a mucky court battle with his ex. I try to 'overcompensate' by making meals, picking up the slack iykwim. My DSK's live with us full time.

I am just feeling right miserable. I know I will snap out of it once this flu bug runs its course.

I am going to get a few hours to myself tomorrow when I go to get my hair done. Hopefully I will feel a little better by then. Just a little run down...

Poor you. I get fed up with constantly picking up after the family too - and that's when I feel well. Dh can't even manage to lift the lid of the laundry basked to put clothes inside. He just throws them in the general direction. Drives me up the wall.

Enjoy having your hair done. Go and buy the papers and go for a coffee when you've had it done.

Don't blame the kids, blame your husband! They are behaving normally, he is being an arse!

DH just phoned to see how I was feeling. He is cleaning the house and apologized for being selfish last night... I am glad he thought things over.

Just a little consideration would be nice, once in awhile. I should not have to badger them into picking up things that are obvious.