Can'r get on with ss

[Imperialleather2]

I just don't like my ss. Who is 12.

I have tried for 7 years and I just can't. There is s huge back story but ss's mother assaulted me and is a nightmare over everything. I can't separate ss from her.

Dh and I have two children together 3 and 6. When ss is here I am.gernerally miserable,pissed off and resentful.

I feel.as though I am missing out my children's childhood feeling miserable.

What do I do? How do I accept him?
Or.do.i just cut my loses and separate from.dh

Yes it's a shame FallenStar. They have good relationships with him but not on a daily basis. They are now adults. All they had to do was be pleasant to me.

No one's connived anything lookluv. it's a choice I've made not to tolerate their poor treatment of me.

Emmaroos he's weak with his children but the least selfish person you would ever meet. In all honestly I can say this is his only failing, which isn't too bad in the grand scheme of things. Dh has great relationships with them allbut they don't live with us. Being young adults that's not unusual. I'd marry dh again in a heartbeat for too many reasons I can list here. I absolutely love my life, my dh and if they don't want to be part of it, their loss!

They have good relationships with him but not on a daily basis
Surely if they are adults, they wouldn't have contact on a daily basis anyway, would they?

Do they see their dad separately to you?

Yes they do Swing, which I encourage. I have a great relationship with one of them, it's the older two who've refused to accept me. After years of trying while they were younger I decided to enjoy what I have got.