Hi, looking for advice on how to approach this situation. Background: my husband (we are together 4 years) has two daughters, 8 and 16 who live with their mum most of the time a fair distance away. We have them for school holidays 3 times a year. The girls are lovely and we get along well but I wouldn't say we are 'close' simply because we need more time together for that. Their mum and I don't have any relationship, not because of animosity but simply there is no need and she hasn't asked.
We are expecting our own bub in a few months and we want to tell the girls when they come over, how would you suggest we do this? Together or just my husband? At the start or end of the trip? We are low fuss people, we didn't make big deal out of our wedding either and things went well. We won't be doing a baby nursery or shower or anything like that.
How can we make the girls feel special and included throughout the next few months but not suffocate them with baby talk/make it all about baby? We will see them twice more before bub is born and then almost a month after bub is here.
We have some holidays planned with the kids and will have to add baby to the passenger list but otherwise nothing is changing.
Also, what about telling their mum via email while kids are at ours? Is that okay? Everything is usually done is email.
Thanks for your insights!
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Eskimo16 · 04/08/2016 10:05
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